New baby, and the step daughters room...
We live in a 3 bedroom apartment that I talked my husband into a year ago. My son is almost 4 and has his own room. I wanted step daughters to have their own room, so this is why we moved into a bigger apartment. So the stepdaughters are almost 11 and 13 and they share the 3rd bedroom. Well I am pregnant, and just found out yesterday we are having another boy. We had said that if it was a boy that we would have my 4 year old son and the new baby share a room. That way the girls could keep their room. Well we started moving things around and its just not going to work. His room is too small to share. The step daughters are only there every other weekend and i just decided to say to my husband that the girls dont need there own room since the hardly ever there. and now i regret saying that. but he had said this in the very begging on the pregnancy that they dont need there own room, bc we thought baby would be a girl and she would take over there room. I know this may all sound confusing...but im so upset and so confused on what to do. step daughters come for 2 nights, (friday night and saturday night) and then go back to their moms on sunday. they share a room at there moms house with their 2 little sisters and i did want them to have their own privacy at our house but now that we have a new baby, i dont know what to do..the step daughters have bunk beds and a 3 drawer plastic dresser for there clothes and then the closet with like very little clothes. so the room just sits there...is it fair to make my boys share a room when there is another room? was in wrong of me to suggest taking the stepdaughters room away from them and letting my boys have their own room? HELP please...i dont know what to do..i am so happy to be having another baby, but we didnt plan it, we were waiting, but it happened and now i have alot of discussions to make. i dont want to feel like the evil step mother, but i feel like it already.
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Is it possible to just switch
Is it possible to just switch the kids. Even though the room is smaller, would bunk beds work if the Skids are only there EOW - it would still let them keep a room of their own but it makes sense the 2 boys who live there full time have the bigger of the two bedrooms to share.
the rooms are about the same
the rooms are about the same size. i even suggested letting my older son have their room with their beds, and he would sleep in bottom and they would sleep on top..(they sleep together anyways) but it would be my sons room, they would just sleep there. and they could share the closet. they dont have anything there. except roller skates, and some board games. they take everything home, never leave anything.
rooms are about the same size
rooms are about the same size
If you were evil you wouldn't
If you were evil you wouldn't be beating yourself up over this. Where will the girls sleep when they come over? I assume the baby's room? IMO, I don't think you should stress about this. Approach it from the practical angle and talk to the girls. Is the room big enough that you could separate space out for the girls... and then have the other side be for the baby? Decorate their half pink (or whatever color they choose) and the other half blue!
You can make it work.
i was thinking of just moving
i was thinking of just moving my sons stuff into their room and letting them share the bunk beds. the girls sleep in the same bed anyways. but it would be my sons room. its not big enough to split.
im so upset about everything...i love that i can come talk to step mothers who understand. thank you! and before we moved into this 3 bedroom, the girls slept on a blow up mattress in the living room. we had lived in that apartment for 2 years and they had lived in another state. but when they came back, they slept on blow up mattress for a year. then we moved.
LOL...the ex wife has no room
LOL...the ex wife has no room to talk, at her house she has 4 girls to a room ages 5, 6, 11, and 13 and then her 15 year old little brother is in there too. Im just thinking of making the step daughters and my oldest son share a room for now. Keep the bunk beds, let my son sleep on bottom and they sleep on top (they sleep together anyways) but its his room. the sleep there and thats it. thanks for some help...i just feel like im taking everything away from them because we are having another baby. even taking away from my son
We have the same situation or
We have the same situation or close we live in a three bedroom house two kids that live here full time bs9, bs2 and one on the way. My oldest sd18 used to come down every weekend now that it is her senior year she comes when ever she like which is fine for me because she came last Jan and then again just after Easter. Sd15 comes down once sometimes twice a month. Because my bs(9) is special needs we do not allow him to share a room with bs2 and we have put a daybed that also has a trundle bed under it in the third bedroom and we have told sd15 that on the weekends she does come down that we will take bs2 in our room with us sd18 likes to sleep down in the basement cause she says sd15 doesn't bug her down there. Sd15 is scared of the basement at night. lol Could that be an option for you guys have it be the babies room just with extra beds? it can be a pain but if you have a playpen it might work.
My suggestion would be to
My suggestion would be to have the baby and girls "share" a room, and just have the baby sleep with you while they're there 4 nights a month. OR if your bed would fit in one of the rooms, you guys take a small room and have your sons share the master bedroom. That way you could put all their toys and crap in there and you could always keep your own dresser, etc. in there too.