Relevations about SD and her "depression"
Well after all this mess and DH and I barely speaking for a week, I realized that he is keeping secrets from me. I don't know what to think anymore. This changes our marriage and of course SD and BM have an impact once again on my life. He believes she is depressed and he is a fool. She blew him off for lunch on Sunday after she initiated it. I am sure it is because she can't fake depression to him like she can to her mom. She is on Facebook with her friends and new stupid pics posted daily. She is not depressed. I am sure it is because life is catching up to her and she needs some excuse as to why her grades are so bad and a diagnosis of depression takes her off the hook. Her way of deflecting things is to make people feel sorry for her. Well she deflected right into a three day hold...Good job BM...
I tried to be supportive, but I can't be anymore. I don't want to hear it from him and now he has changed everything again by keeping things from me. It just sucks when your mariage is fine and then somehow the drama that is SD15, comes back into your life and screws everything up, again. Why can't she and her mother just go away.
My DH thinks he can have an impact on her life now, he is being played. I just know it and I can't do anything to help him. He is lying to me about this situation and now I don't even want to be around him.
We tell women all the time on here to plan their Exit Strategy, well I am. Yet again...This is exactly why I kept that house and didn't co-mingle funds. I just wish to hell after 7 years together, he would realize that his loyalty should be to me.
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she's a teenager.. it's not
she's a teenager.. it's not depression it's hormones!!! Geeze, if you ever lived with one omg.. it's not easy.
One minute everything is awesome the next, they hate everyone and have no friends.
It's a roller coaster ride and that's without adding in the whole divorced situation. I can't imagine parenting my kids during that time with them going back and forth to their idiot father's house.
Exit strategy is good at all times. I think it's good that you kept your finances separate.
My SO and I already decided that we won't mingle either.
It's best for both of us if we both have our own accounts and possessions.
I'm sorry that your guy can't pull his head out. I'm not sure that he ever will. I don't expect my SO to ever realize that his princess is not the only princess in the world!!
It's almost disgusting how he jumps over himself to do stuff for her. Blech... she's only 12!!
It can only get worse.
And to make all that worse, I've just realized that he has her the weekend of my daughter's wedding. I'm making him switch. Can't have too many princesses on that day!!
It would be great to continue
It would be great to continue being disengaged on her. But, she does things and it impacts our lives. Sunday I had made plans for a big dinner because he had been gone the day before with SS and I had been down with pain from surgery. She says she wants to meet and dinner plans get changed and it leaves me to figure out dinner for the boys. Fast forward two hours later and she blows him off and now it is too late to make dinner. So since I can still barely chew anything and didn't want to go out in public being all swollen from the dental surgery my DH takes my boys out to dinner.
She does this and it affects us. It is hard not to let it bother you. As for the custody, we have SS and she has SD, but BM has never signed the papers so legally we are still responsible for the SD. I don't bring her up, SS does and DH does.
I just have to learn to walk away again when they do. My issue is more what it says about us and our marriage if he is keeping things from me again.
What is he keeping from you?
What is he keeping from you?
Emails from BM and the the
Emails from BM and the the therapist...I bought him a tablet and used it last night and the email was open...I suspected it, but did not need to see it so in my face...I know it sounds minor, but I thought after everything that SD did the last few times, we were finally in agreement not to keep secrets about this stuff. At least I thought we were...
I kind of feel like someone who just found out that the Tooth Fairy is not real...