So happy and I know it is wrong to be this happy....But the brat, turns 18 and she is no longer a potential lawsuit for DH and I. According to a lawyer friend, not much they can do since she doesn't live here and we are not providing her with a car. She is out of control, drinking and driving and drugs and everything else, that the last year as she has ramped up her behavior, I have stressed since we still have legal custody.

But, no more, on Wednesday she turns 18...We have no CS and no clause about college thankfully. So she is really out of my life. DH will continue to pursue her. He apparently texted her to see her for her birthday. Deal is, we don't discuss her but he has to notify me if he has contact. He texted me he is taking her out for dinner on Thursday for her birthday. Keep in mind, he has had no contact with her beyond a few texts since we sent her home while in Boston on vacation after her meltdown in NY. I am sure she thinks she is getting a present. I told him, no problem, but if he gives her anything or money, I am going to be angry beyond belief. He did not respond and we had a nice weekend and it never came up. We are usually on the same page with this kind of stuff, but I am prepared for an argument. In my mind, the kid owes us about $10K now for all the money we have spent on her BS, including ruining our vacation and destroying relationships with IL's and court and lawyers. I know he wants to keep trying, I just wish he would see that she is only in it for herself. They will discuss nothing or he will admonish her and then she will try to leave again. Last time, he locked her in the car to talk to her. Nothing went well, never does for her or him. Someday, he will just stop trying and I feel sorry for her, she so needs his guidance, she just doesn't realize it. BPD or BP, whatever it is she has, it doesn't excuse bad behavior and BM thinks it does.

All I know, if I will be angry at him if he goes against me and he does know by now, that I always figure it out. Now that she put it out there that she is getting a dolphin tattooed on her foot, I will be damned if any money of his goes to that. Thankfully, he and I don't co-mingle funds, but it still affects him if he overspends in the month and that affects all of us.

My plan is if he goes and gives her anything, is to go buy a new piece of art I have been eyeing and putting it on the family credit card. Sounds petty, but I don't care.

Anyway, she is turning 18 and I no longer have to worry about her doing something stupid and us getting sued. I am sure there is still bail money in our future and this brat flunking out of school, but for now, at least whatever we do, will be something we want to do...

Also, SS15 has not seen his mom in 6 weeks and I am sure she will surface this week for her obligatory dinner with him. We never have to worry about him doing anything stupid, he is too lazy. Also, BM never wanted him, so she never fought for him and he will never go back to her, so our contact with BM is becoming less and less.

On Wednesday I am having a drink to celebrate....