As much as it hurts, the only way you can work through your issues & come out the other side stronger is if BOTH of you are willing to make it happen. It sounds like he is not. I'm sorry that he broke your heart, but his willingness to give up on your marriage lets you know his heart is not with you.

You deserve a man who will give his all to be with you, & the only way to find that man is to rid yourself of the one who won't.

Take some time to grieve your loss. Allow yourself to hurt. Crying is excellent therapy. And when you've done those things, live for you. Do the things you enjoy & have faith that wherever this new road takes you is exactly where you're meant to be.

Love yourself enough to recognize your worth & expect the same from any man, be it working things out with your DH or anyone else you meet in the future. Be sure they know the value they hold when they have you.

(((Hugs))) to you.

I am sorry, so very sorry.
This is all new and fresh like someone cut you with a sword and someone is pouring lemon juice on your wound. It is amazing how our physical health can be so affected by our mental state.
I spent a year with my now-DH. When I went home he broke it off 3 months later. He didn't think he needed a Long Distance girlfriend. I was heartbroken and couldn't work for 2 days. I was even throwing up. He wnated to remain email friends but after 2 weeks I called it totally quits. Why just be friends to make him feel better while my heart was continually broken?

As time went by I realised why should I hold him hostage in a relationship he was not prepared for? I knew I was the best woman for him but of he wanted something closer and lesser match then this was his problem and not mine. In my heart I let him go to find whatever made him happier than I did. 6 weeks later he called me and told me what he found was nothing like me.

Now my story has a happy ending but it could have swung the other way and I know it. If you aren't what makes him happier than ever it won't ever work out. Sad but true. What concerns me is he is dragging his son through relationships where he forms a bond and then that person is just gone. This is especially difficult when this other woman was his surrogate mother for xx months. That is dreadfully unfair and if your DH thinks this is OK and his son is not emotionally dmamaged by working his way through partners then he will be sadly mistaken.

Take one hour at a time. Find time to discover what can make you happy apart from your DH. Try something new. Get a massage. He is likely to come back once things settle down. However if they don't know that he let you and his son down for not making an effort to save his marriage. That makes him a lesser person.