Wait...Is BS HIS son? If that's true NO contact? Why? That's not cool...

But sorry you're going through this, but if this is the best move for you, you'll get through it and be stronger...

GL!

I would return the gifts you got for all of them. He ended it, doesn't seem to really care, why on earth would you send him Christmas gifts? Return and use the money to go to the spa or buy yourself a really nice gift. I'm sorry this has happened for you, but better now than after you had children with the man if this is how he really sees things.

I'm so sorry.

Return the gifts. Do not send them to them. Use the money for yourself. I wouldn't do anything that involves contact with him or the skids.

I am so sorry you are having to go through this, it really sucks. I'm in the same dilema myself. DH and I have only been separated for about 3 weeks though. My whole family has already bought both DH and SS gifts. On one hand I feel that because my family took the time to get them these gifts they should have them, but on the I other I just want to say screw you and give them to someone who is less fortunate since DH says he doesn't even want to try and repair our marriage.

I am happy that you are moving on. Most of these men like to have someone there for emotional support to help them in everything that they need. When you need the help and the emotional support - they just donot want to work on it and it is too much effort and according to them it should not be that difficult so they move on to the next victim- a naive woman that feels sorry for them and supports them in ay form and fashion. So the cycle goes with men like that.
I fell pray to one of that type of men. I left after 3 1/2 years - I was about to marry him but after an argument I realized that things will never change and he said he will not help me go through a difficult time. So I left and decided to be stronger, healthier , more successful by myself.
The lesson learned- I COME FIRST. If a man is not able to give me the emotional support that I need - he can see himself through the door. No more compromise , no more poor him I need to help him. NO MORE!
Pick yourself up - go to a spare, take up an excercise , focus on YOUR NEEDS, FEELINGS AND WELL - BEING.
Men like yours and my ex- are not worth it - they do not deserve us . If they did they would have fought to make things better for US and create a strong BOND love and care. They didnot want this - so we have to find the man that is serious and wants that BOND.
I know how you feel - i was there and I have come back stronger than ever. No compromise!YOU COME FIRST!

Hey I do ZUMBA too! It is so positive and uplifting. I donot have a kid but my ex and your ex seem to be very similar. I took him from his mother`s basement he had 0 in his bank account coul dnot even pay the overdraft charge so I paid it for him. To 3 1/2 years late - he is finishing a Masters degree this spring , has a steady student income of 1, 200 usd a month ( for a student this is a great deal provided he sits inside and does nothing for this money) plus he got 8 ,000 usd scholarship money. I supported him through all of this with advice, wrote his Masters application package, submitted it with him , wrote his papers, took his tests and gave him encouragement. I cooked fo rhim nurtured him etc. All of it. Only to be told two weekes before we were to sign a marriage license that he does not care if his daughter texts him at 7 p.m and he enjoys the texting even if the BM is behind it. Oh, I must be jelous of the daughter and the BM?! Give me a break - the BM is a white trash with 9 th grade degree that is on welfare and monitored by a social worker weekly. Also bipolar, alkoholi , smokes and has seizures. Shoudl I continues - oh dates jailbirds etc but on her facebook she and her daughter quote the bible and present themselves as the purest god loving souls on this planet.
I could not sign a marriage license after his defense behaviour. After teh argument he locked himself in the bedroom and would not talk or communicate with me. Of course all of this escalated to me leaving and finding a new place. He counted on the fact that I donot have family in this country and would not be able to move by myself. Ha- I did it and have proven to be stronger than ever. It was only when I left that I realized how free , light and happy I am.
His daughter did a prank call on my phone at 1 a.m in the morning that scared me so much. We were in a warming up period at that time. I just donot think that users and abusers like my ex adn your ex should ever be anywhere close to us. We deserve better and we are worth more!!!
Trust me it does get better and NO CONTACT is the way to go !
NO MORE! IT IS YOU THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON! YOU - YOUR FAMILY, PARENTS BROTHERS , SISTERS!PEOPLE THAT TRULY LOVE YOU AND TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND COMPASSION!
LOVE YOURSELF!!!! FOCUS ON YOU!
When he left he told me Good bye and he will love me forever and if I need something to call him. I said farewell you will have a long time to wait for that phonecall.
NO MORE USERS! NO COMPROMISES! RESPECT YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE!KNOW YOUR WORTH!

Yes Broom they are the same person. When he was sick I will be beside his bed and take care of his cold and flu. When I was sick I will hear - I donot like sick people. I had to take care of myself. When my wisodm tooth was removed I needed warm compresses. He did not like to help me with that because his hands were getting burned from the hot water so I had to do my hot compresses by myself- I was intruding to him watching TV . He just did not want to watch the hot water and give me hot compresses. He did not care.
His brother is happy that we are not together because his brother never liked or wanted to see him happy. However , his brother told him that he will miss my crepes. His mother , daughter and BM are jumping from joy I am sure. When we were in a warming up period he asked me why the neighbours are looking at him strangely and was afraid that I have told them anything. No I did not tell them anything - they just know and see what a great person I am. The woman from teh apartment complex also did not like him - he thought that I have told her something - no I have not just people can see you and can see me.
His grandmother wanted to see me and talk to me. She has always liked me. I am sure she would not like to hear that we are broken up. She is the only woman with a common sense in his family. Last time I saw her she told me - BE BRAVE!. I just could not be brave enough. I have dignity and self - respect. I can not live with a man that will lock himself up anytime there is a problem with his precious. As a husband he needs to have my back and say - yes it is not right to text me at 7 p.m. I will call and end it right now because I just spend teh weekend with my daughter for alone time and movies. You are my future and I care about your feelings. Nothing of the sort - just insults that I am jelous and weird smiles and laugh in my face. Well, I am the last one laughing now!
NO NO NO ! NEVER COMPROMISE YOURSELF! He came back but he never thought he has done anything wronng - he just texted his daughter. In his eyes - I am the evil bitch that cannot deal with his precious! So now he is on the look out for another naive woman to use and abuse until he gets what he needs. His advice to me was to move on and date . He thinks that if I date I will come back to him because no body will treat me better than him. When I left I was repeating in the car - I will date , meet a nice guy , get married and have children. I had to keep my sanity. I had to pick myself up and be my happy me again. His drama. carzy family and weird daughter destroyed parts of my happiness. I am regaining all of this back!
NEVER EVER WILL I ALLOW THIS! BROOM , DONOT ALLOW THIS ANYMORE! EVER ! BE HAPPY BY YOURSELF AND FIND A MAN THAT ADORES YOU RESPECTS YOU AND LOVES YOU NOT ONLY WITH WORDS BUT ALSO SHOWS IT IN HIS ACTIONS! LOOK AT WHAT HE DOES NOT WHAT HE SAYS! MY EX WAS GOOD WITH WORDS AND WAS FOOLING ME ALONG FOR A LONG TIME!

I have promised myself to be the BEST myself that I can be : to write the best dissertation, to be the best daughter, sister and the best friend to my friends. I have promised myself to never ever allow a man like him to make me compromise my integrity and ethical standards. He lied to his professor that he is married to me. People respect me so they shook his hand and congratulated him. H emade up a date on which we were not even engaged. Now at the end of teh semester he got a CONGRATULATIONS card from the professor and his class. Yep - talking about a user and manipulator. That is what this guy is ! Sad part is that this prfessor will oversee his masters defense - boy do I want to see her asking where I am . I would like to see the lies that he will make up.Anyway - BE HAPPY , BE HEALTHY! GO SHOPPING WITH FRIENDS!
I bought a sexy skirt and fancy panthyhose plus a sexy pair of earrings . Do your hair , get a facial . NURTURE YOURSELF!CARE FOR YOURSELF! LOVE YOURSELF!YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
These men are everywhere - now we know how to avoid them!

Unbelieveable what he has done. What an ass.! It sounds like he is just saying he is ready to date again??!!!!!

I am sorry honey. You deserve much better than this!!!!

Return the gifts and buy yourself something nice instead!!!!! Do not reward such behavior!!!

I saw that you posted a reply on my blog & just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for you as well. What a great time of year to have to be going through this. Too bad we don't live near one another, we could comisserate...lol
This is for the best, we deserve to be treated with love, and consideration, and nothing less. Stay strong & know that this too shall pass.