You are here

Counting down the days.....

frustratedstepdad's picture

Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 10:27am

33 more days until the deadline we gave SD21 to have her own place. I know she has not been saving money though (a week ago she didn't even have $10 to get her prescriptions filled) so I don't plan on holding my breath. *SIGH* DW gave me her word that SD21 would be moved out by then, but I have a feeling her word doesn't mean much at this point. God help me.....

Comments

frustratedstepdad's picture

Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 11:11am

Yep, we have paid the deposit on an apartment for her and her bf and the time twice. I refuse to pay for it this time. Now if it comes down to where $200 is all that stands in the way of her moving out, I will GLADLY give the money to have some peace of mind.

SD21 and her 2 year old son have been living with us for 15 months and its definitely run its course, along with DW and I taking care of her kid every night since Sept so she can work. Whenever she's home with her son, SD sleeps while her son runs around our house unsupervised. Last weekend her son got into some Kool-Aid packets and spilled the powder on our carpet. Instead of her thinking to vaccuum it up before trying to clean, she just started scrubbing the carpet. Now our carpet is COMPLETELY runined and we will have to pay a professional to clean it.

frustratedstepdad's picture

Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 11:27am

Yes our carpet is a light beige color (almost white) so it looks HORRIBLE. It's time SD21 grew up and learned how to do things on her own!

frustratedstepdad's picture

Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 1:03pm

Yeah she added water to it. She just isn't too bright I'm afraid. She doesn't know how to cook, doesn't clean, and is lazy. She doesn't even know how to go and buy groceries. I really don't know how she's going to manage to take care of herself and her son when she moves out, but that's not my problem. I've been asking DW for the past week about reminding her that the deadline is coming up, but I know she hasn't. I guess I'll have to be the asshole and do it.

DaizyDuke's picture

Submitted by DaizyDuke on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 2:33pm

She doesn't know how to cook, doesn't clean, and is lazy. She doesn't even know how to go and buy groceries. I really don't know how she's going to manage to take care of herself and her son

Because your DW has coddled this girl all of her life, she has never been required to grow the hell up! I was just commenting on another post about this...I think people think they are helping their kids by doing everything for them but that couldn't be further from the truth.. they are just holding them back... it's so pathetic.

buttercookie's picture

Submitted by buttercookie on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 1:27pm

I feel your pain, its always hard getting them out on their own esp if they are being lazy mooches and disrespectful, Good luck and I hope to hear your free of her soon. Its so much more peaceful with them on their own and they are old enough

Shannon61's picture

Submitted by Shannon61 on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 8:28pm

I can't believe she didn't know better about the kool-aid. Also, this time it was kool-aid, next time it could be bleach and the kid could drink it.

Your DW needs to put her foot down and make SD accountable for raising her own child. She also needs to start teaching her how to cook, take her grocery shopping, teach her how to do laundry, etc. The girl doesn't WANT to learn how to do anything because she's planning on living there for the next 15 years.

Take it from someone on the other side . .who's had a SD move out. . it's a whole new world when they leave. I now look forward to coming home. Do whatever it takes to get her out. If it means you have write a check, I'd do it in a heart beat. Somebody has to force her to grow up. Your DW created this nightmare so it's going to have to fall on you.