You are a F*****G Disgrace
Christmas Day..
So BM's (soon to be EX)H drops the kids off at our house at 11:00 to open presents and give them to us for the week. As soon as the door opens the fucking bullshit begins.
First of all, SS3 doesn't have his glasses on. We are trying to fix a lazy eye that he has, and the doctor gave him the glasses to see if they would help without having to go through with the surgery.
We drop the skids off at BM's house last Sunday. Monday, she calls me and informs me that the glasses are broken. How did they break? She doesn't know because she never watches her children. She tells me that she will take them to the place where we bought them to see if they can be fixed. If not, she will buy another cheap pair until insurance will cover a new pair in 2 months. Well, I guess something came up on Tuesday, because she didn't go. And Wednsday. And Thursday. And Friday. And to top the shit off, they don't even have the common sense to drop them off with us Christmas day so that a responsible party can take them to the damn store. This stupid bitch (and non-chalant DH) did not take SS3 to the doctor, to the glasses store, to the fitting, back to the glasses store, and back to the doctor. I am not going to do all this shit for nothing.
So, the glasses are not fixed. I am calling the doctor tomorrow to see what the options on surgery are. I am not going to waste time with SS3 not wearing the glasses. The eye will not get better, and I want the surgery while he is still young. That stupid bitch was in town this week, too. She doesn't even care that her son can not see, and doesn't give a shit about his lazy eye. I don't want him going to school and getting made fun of. Taking pictures and his eye looking "different". It's bullshit that this bitch doesn't care about her son's well being.
OR HER DAUGHTER'S, FOR THAT MATTER.
After setting me off with the whole glasses ideal, SD3 walks in the door coughing her lungs up. Runny nose. Fever. Sweats. Cough. The works. BM's (soon to be EX)H says "Yeah.. she's been sick since yesterday. We were going to give her some medicine, but we forgot." What. The. Fuck. This little girl can't stop coughing for more than 10 seconds, and snot is almost dripping off her chin. I know you hear her coughing, but you just FORGOT to give her medicine. She was miserable opening her presents, no excitement in her face or demeanor at all, while her brother is bouncing everywhere. I ran to Walgreens, which was luckily open on Christmas, and bought medicine. Made her feel better, but she didn't really eat anything all day and the cough wouldn't go away.
SD3 was just miserable, on Christmas. And all this stupid bitch BM was concerned about was herself. TAKE CARE OF YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN. YOU ONLY HAVE THEM FOR ONE WEEK AT A TIME. THEN YOU HAVE A WHOLE WEEK OFF TO DO WHATEVER THE FUCK IT IS YOU DO WITH YOURSELF.
Sorry about the colorful language in this post, but I am still fuming every time I think about this bullshit. Feels much better to let it out. Called my Mother while at Walgreens to cry and vent to her. Helped a lot.
I hate to say it, but my skids are fucked. As long as they are with their Mother, they are royally fucked. She doesn't care about their well being now, or for their future. It's disgraceful. I wish she would binge out on dope again so we could take them from her man-hopping, irresponsible, self-centered, eyes WAY too close together, sorry excuse for a Mother self!
GODDDDDDDDDDDD.
Done.
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Rawr! Haha! Let it out,
Rawr! Haha! Let it out, girl!
That is frustrating. I dealt with certain things like that too and then just gave up. BM never takes them to get a hair cut and sends them over in nasty clothes that are too small with holes in their socks and they smell like they don't bathe. I guess she thinks my DH should take care of that. But the glasses thing is a little worse. And how can you 'forget' to give a sick child medicine? Sounds like BM is a waste of space. Your colorful language is excused.
Oh, THANK YOU! I forgot to
Oh, THANK YOU!
I forgot to mention that they had not had a bath EITHER. SD3's hair was greasy as hell. It felt as if she hadn't had a bath in 2 days. And SS3 STANK. Smelled horrible. Stupid fucking whore.
She sends them in ratty clothes too. & she gets them back every week. Even on Christmas they looked pathetic. LUCKILY they have a real Mother Figure (AKA ME) who went and bought them beautiful Christmas outfits, shoes, and santa hat & bows to match.
Well I give you props for
Well I give you props for being so caring towards them. That's great.
I used to be like that and gave up. My DH takes good care of them though.
*Shakes your BM* what the
*Shakes your BM* what the fuck is wrong with you!!!!
God people are so lazy sometimes! Freaking seriously. Your BM sounds like a real ass. How do you "forget" to give the kids medicine. Our BM does this thing where she sends skids back to our house in flip flops, shorts and short sleeve shirts in DECEMBER.
Oh Lord, don't get me
Oh Lord, don't get me started. Our BM does the exact same thing. Sandals with no socks. Leggings. Tank tops. Their older siblings shoes that are 5 sizes too big that they are tripping over as they walk in the front door.
And you're right. LAZY. That's all it is.
I just want to get in her face a say "Look Bitch! I'm 21 fucking years old, have a job, keep my house clean, dinner on the table, clean clothes in the closets THAT FIT, and I still manage to fit in Me Time. You're 8 years older than me. These are your kids, NOT MINE. Get a fucking job, buy some clothes FOR YOUR KIDS, NOT YOU!, that fit them, and stop moving in with men so that they will support you and your four children so you can sit on your ass and do nothing all day!"
I mean.. I'm 8 years younger than her, and SHE needs to grow up. Ironic.
We are custodial with SD5,
We are custodial with SD5, she is very well taken care of when she is with us, she has nice things to wear, nice toys to play with and so on. BM has her at most 90 days a year since SD started school, if my math is correct we have her 73% of the time. She pays for nothing when SD is with us. She lives about 2000 miles away from us, WE pay the airfair for her visits with SD. The 90 days a year she does have her she doesn't buy her ANYTHING. She comes back with some clothes she didn't take with her, but they certainly are not new. Ususally stained or ripped otherwise unwearable garments. FDH and I buy her clothes, toys, school supplies, health insurance, and anything else she needs.
BUT according to BM, SHE takes care of her daughter. HUH? I am confused....what do you do exactly? You take care of her buy nagging us to buy this and that for her, because she "needs it". If she needs it YOU buy it!!!
Sorry didn't mean to rant there, but damn! It pisses me off!
Exactly. That's like the
Exactly.
That's like the glasses thing. BM doesn't know how they broke because she NEVER watches her damn kids. But the fact is:
They broke at YOUR house, not OURS.
Therefore, YOU are responsible for getting another pair.
If they are not fixed by tomorrow afternoon, we are going with surgery. There is NO POINT in having a pair for our house, and then he goes there and doesn't wear them for a week. It's not going to make the eye any better.
But doesn't that piss you off? BM's that parade their kids around (ESPECIALLY ours, since they are boy/girl twins) and act like they are fucking supermom. But got forbid they actually have to TAKE CARE OF THEM. If they aren't toting them around as accessories (most likely in clothes that someone else paid for, because theirs are too ratty to wear in public), then they are just not interested in being Mom anymore.
What kills me is BM always has on fresh new A&F hoodies and shirts, and the kids are raggedy. Bitch, I know how much Abercrombie clothes cost. Get your shit together.
I swear, our BM2 is the queen
I swear, our BM2 is the queen of this crap. She is such a negligent mom. I had to call her around Halloween and let her know that I know that SD8 wears pullups overnight there same as she does here, and I know she still wets them EVERY NIGHT. Wetting herself every night and going without a shower for the entire weekend caused her to come home reeking of urine and rashy. BM of course has an excuse. "I asked her if she wanted to take a shower, but she didn't!" Okay, she's 8, and has poor hygiene. You have to MAKE her bathe, regardless.
This phone call happened because SD came home smelling really bad, so when I got her home, I put her straight in the bath. As I helped her put her clothes in the hamper, I realized her pants and panties smelled like urine. I asked her if they had been clean when she put them on. She said yes, but she had had an accident and wet them at Mama BMs house and didn't tell because she didn't want to get in trouble. So she just stayed in them. They eventually dried. I asked her when it happened. She said after breakfast, but not after lunch. So in other words, BM didn't know what the hell she was doing for long enough for the child to pee in her pants and for it to completely dry. That kind of crap never happens on my watch.
I guess she thinks she's getting by with this crap. I've been carefully documenting it all, and not petty stuff, but just the stuff that hurts SD. When we go into court, we are asking for her to have less visitation since the visitation she currently has seems to be too much for her to handle.
That is so sad.
That is so sad. :?
I completly understand, and
I completly understand, and it is a shame that your SS is the one that suffers for his BM's neglect.
When our BM came to pick up SD5 this time to take her for her Christmas visit, she had a five day layover. She came into town on our dime, we paid for airfair, and we paid for her hotel. She paid for a rental car to take SD to school for the few days she was here. I pack SD a bag of clothes, several outfits (a few of which were new) and PJ's. BM calls the next day to inform us that she threw some of the clothes away because they didn't fit SD, Bull! She nagged that SD needed new clothes. We go out and spend about 100$ on new clothes for her. (she did need them).
Meanwhile BM takes her to MACY's, and buys her new dresses! We are in the midwest, and it is fucking December. Dresses are not going to do her any good this time of year! How in the hell can you go shopping and Macy's for SD and yourself when you could't contribute to travel costs! Then on day 3 in town she calls FDH bitching up a storm about them not "discussing" who was going to have SD in the evenings at dinnertime because she cannot afford to feed her!!!!! Are you fucking kidding me? So we had them over for dinner, three nights in a row. :sick:
Then she complains about all of SD'5 "medical conditions" that we neglect. She is somewhat of a toe walker. She doesn't do it all the time and her doctor says that for now it doesn't require anything other than reminding her to stay off her toes. Has BM ever taken her to the doctor over this...HELL NO!
But when she is here, SD is polished up all nice and pretty, and she is super mom. PISSES ME OFF! Grrrr
I apologize for my language, I really hate people that take no responsibility for their chilren.
okay vent over.
Oh yeah and to top it off,
Oh yeah and to top it off, she was in town for five days, SD was supposed to go to school for three out of those five days. She was absent for two of them, and late on the one day she did go. :sick:
My SD12 has a lazy eye and
My SD12 has a lazy eye and wore eye patches. They have them at Wal-Mart that stick like band-aids. Rather cheap. I know it won't make BM put them on, but it can work. In fact SD had foam patches cut to fit behind her glasses so that it would make the lazy eye work more. Just oval patches with a slit on one side for the ear piece and a little hole for the nose piece. It worked pretty good for SD.
That would be great! At least
That would be great! At least then he couldn't break those.. and he wouldn't pull them off because they would stick to his eye lashes & he is a wuss (compared to his sister, well until you pull her hair with a scrunchie, then it's the end of the world.) I am going to look into that today while I am out.
Our BM does the same BS.
Our BM does the same BS. SS17 is with her. 3 days on an 3 days off. If SS17 gets sick. While with her she will wait til he's with us, then call DH an let him know that he needs to take him to Dr. Just so she doesn't have to get off her lazy ass.