Friday night we were out to dinner and SO says "SS might come over tomorrow..." Uhh - Saturday morning I was having an egg retrieval. SO hasn't been seeing SS16 at all, things haven't been good. SO is convinced he told me around a week prior that SS might come Saturday. I don't remember this at all. The retrieval wasn't scheduled until Thursday. Whatever, SO told SS he'd be busy in the morning and afternoon, and SO already understands that I won't be playing "happy family" when SS decides to come around. So that was a surprise, but not a really big deal.

So SS comes over around 3:30. SO had picked up food, and he arranged everything and brought me mine on the couch where I was parked. It was very sweet. They went to the "man cave" in the basement for awhile, then we watched some TV. Then they wanted to watch that big fight that was on, and I went to bed - not into people hitting each other. We didn't talk much about everything that's been going on lately.

Sunday we did talk though. SS said a lot of stuff, but one thing that stuck out was him saying BM "goes crazy" and overreacts to things SS does. I told SS that I think that's basically crap. I know his BM is pretty crazy - but I know SS a lot better than I know BM. SS thinks he's in an adult-adult interaction rather than a parent-child interaction. He did it to me enough times when we were custodial. I'd try to tell him something perfectly reasonable and straightforward, and he'd talk back with a nasty attitude as if he didn't need to listen to me or even respect me. If he's doing that with his mother - and I'm sure he is - then no wonder she's losing it with him at this point.

But that's their problem. The two of them wanted so badly to be together - now they can deal with each other. I do feel bad for the situation she's in with him - but it's of her own making. And vice versa - if she's acting crazy with him, he needs to deal with it since he wanted to be there.

That's what I told SS, straight up.

Fast forward to the evening. SO dropped SS off around 5:30 or so. Within about half an hour SO got a phone call from BM saying she got some sort of paperwork saying that the hearing for SS's arrest for trespass - originally this week - was postponed a week. BM was going off. That's pretty much what she does - her emotions go up and down with the moment. So getting the paper just reminded her of the hearing, the arrest, etc., and she started telling off SS.

Who of course couldn't deal with it. And even though we *just* talked with him about the need to simply shut up and behave respectfully to his mother, he couldn't last as much as the same evening without it blowing up again.

The next two hours or so held a series of calls from BM saying "I can't take him anymore, you have to take him," and one from SS saying "can I come back with you."

SO told BM it was her problem, since she was the one who wanted SS, and that SO wasn't going to run to the rescue again like he did last spring. BM says SO shouldn't bring up "the past". (uhhh - WTF?) To SS, SO said "we need to talk." I don't know if he meant we have to talk with SS, or SO has to talk with me, or what. I didn't ask. I advised SO to wait and see what the two of them were saying in the morning.

This is what they *both* do - they're both addicted to drama. It's entirely possible they're back in love with each other by now.

I'm sure I'll hear the next chapter when I get home from work.

L