So I confronted BF last night again about how he is so permissive with SD11. He says he will not change it. How he treats his kids is of no concern to me. When I tried to tell him about the disrespect, he said to let him know and he would "take care of it"

Last night I saw SD11 throw a broom handle at SS13. SS13 was not hurt, but she should not be throwing such things at anyone. When I told BF he said, "well what did he do to her to cause that?"

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She should not have done it. I don't care if BF talked to his kids later and found out that he hit her with the stick first. BAH!!!

I am so done. Let these kids do what they want. I will take care of my kids. My kids know I am hard on them to make them strong for the world ahead. They see what these 2 are like and do not want to be that way. My kids love me, and when they ask me "why did they not get into trouble for that?" I answer, "I am not their parent." and sigh heavily. LOL

My kids are lucky that they have a grandmother that is much harder on them than I am. Why do I say lucky? This grandmother is my ex's Mother. I have had no real reason to keep my kids from her, but she is much more strict and heavier on chores than I am. My kids come home and get a break.

I can say though, that while I don't agree with her methods, my girls appreciate hard work. Grandma lives on a farm, Ex grew up on a farm. It is hard work and all of the family has to work together to get it all done. They still cut their own wood for winter heating every fall. They milk cows for the milk on the farm.

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After SD11 calling me after BF went to work and asking me "when will you come and pick me up" when she did not even ask if I would, or even ask permission to go over there, I am about to not even acknowledge the child exists. SS13 thanks me and is courteous MOST of the time, he is 13 after all. I asked BF to punish her and he just said that he needs to come up with rules. These kids have lived here for over a year. This is not the first time she has done this. I am sure it will continue. My girls know not to even leave the house to go outside before telling me, and making sure I am awake to hear it.

I also know that my problems compared to some on this board are very minor. I can make a mountain out of a mole hill any day of the week. This bothers me though. Every time she just walks all over him I see a teenager or a young adult just tearing apart his life (BF) I am not sure if I want to be there when it happens.

I use to be afraid of leaving and being alone again. Now I am not so sure.