Stop, Don't do it. In theory it sounds like a great idea but in reality your just opening yourself up to a bunch more crap from her. She already didn't listen to BF's text stop texting me, she won't listen to yours. Keep records of everything she texts him. His reply can be something along the lines of please email me from now on, I will not reply to text messages unless it's an emergancy. Please keep your emails to just about the skids. And just ignore the texts when she sends them.

OK now relax, deep breath, and go get a glass of wine.

Have him ignore her non-kid related texts altogether, IMO. Turn the phone off, even, if you aren't expecting or welcoming any messages - if it's important she can call, and if she calls and it isn't he can end the conversation and not answer should she call back. Even though he's asking her to stop, it clearly doesn't matter to her and so this is the only option if you both want a little peace from someone who sounds completely out of her mind.

As far as making your FB public, don't do it. Don't sink to her level. Use this place to vent, that's what we're here for! Besides, do you really want her to have access to all your personal things if that's the kind of woman she is? I wouldn't want someone like that to have access to my information, pictures, posts, etc.

IMO, if you do that it's opening the door for a FB war and quite frankly, you're better than that. There are a lot of things I'd love to say to a lot of people but I also see the people that do engage in that sort of behaviour regularly on FB and every time I just think to myself how trashy it all looks and sounds. Don't turn yourself into *that* person. And also, I don't want everyone else on my FB list to know all about my personal dramas. I'm guilty of the odd passive-aggressive post here and there but it's a rarity and no one who isn't involved knows what I'm talking about.

"I have never hated anyone in my life, but I hate her"
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I feel your pain! I have said these same exact words! I truly am a super easy person to get along with, I let most day to day nonsense roll off my back and don't hold grudges, but our BM makes me insane! I wish I could just one day, have a free pass to tell her what I think, and then use my karate training to beat the crap out of her.... but until then I just fantasize and try to keep my cool.

I know it is tempting to put something on FB or Myspace but I agree with they8ntmine, don't do it! If you think she's bad now, just try doing something like that, she'll be guaranteed to blow up your BF phone and then she'll make YOU out to be the bad guy for publicly degrading her. I know how hard it is to take the high road, but I really think it's in your best interest to continue to rise above her nonsense and be the better person. ((Hugs))

*just breathe*
I’m really sorry that you have to deal with this psychopath… she’s obviously obsessed with her ex and is trying desperately to get *any* kind of attention from him… I know how hard it can be with these intrusions on your relationship, all you want to do is put her and their relationship out of your head but these crazy ass messages just keep her in the forefront. And that’s her goal all along… attention. His and yours.

The best (and hardest!!!) thing you can do is ignore it… not feed into it… not give her the attention she so desperately is seeking… seriously, ignoring her will piss her off more than anything you could ever do or say. Any form of reaction from you will only validate any crazy ideas she has in her head.

Know what I do…?
Write a harsh and honest e-mal to her expressing EVERY feeling you’re having… cuss, insult, scream, express every emotion you’re harboring. And then just save it to draft… and add to it as you need to. It’s very therapeutic. And funny to look back on later… I’ve called Mother Russia a “horse faced, buck toothed succubus” in more than one imaginary e-mail… and when I’m out of the cloud of rage that made me write such a thing it usually just makes me *giggle*

Good luck darlin… vent here!!!

"Write a harsh and honest e-mal to her expressing EVERY feeling you’re having… cuss, insult, scream, express every emotion you’re harboring."
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This really is a helpful method. It gets all the ugly angry thoughts that you want to say but can't out. It releases so much stress & brain-jumble & really does help you think more clearly & be more productive day-to-day. I don't do the emails. I sit down with a pen & paper & I write it. The stress relief is even evident on the paper. The beginnings of the letters are always deeply indented with the pressure of my hand with the pen, & the more pages I write, the lighter my pen-strokes get. I write until I'm tired & can't think of anything else to say. It's more helpful to me, I think, than talking about it. It seems when I talk I get stuck going in circles. Sometimes it happens on paper too, but without the conversation going back & forth with someone, I find it's easier not to get sidetracked. I don't feel like I'm burdening someone else with my problems or taking away from them to make it all about me. It truly is therapeutic. I have a box in my closet to keep all of my letters in so I can read back through them anytime, & I know that should the skids ever come over they won't stumble across them & read my deepest feelings & opinions of them & their mother.

Hault!! Stop!! Alto!!! Don't do it!! And ignore all the texts that have zip to do with kids. BM here does the same, recently she went as far as texting that her and her BF broke up and hinting she wanted to get with FDH!!! They try anything to get what they want. I'm secure in my relationship, so it was hilarious and we ignored her.

We always text her "not my problem"!!! Or use one of her replies "I divorced that!"

Don't give her anything that will make u look bad in court. Let her spill her personal business to you but do not ever give her any info on you or your relationship.

Not a good idea, a friend of mine did that on her FB page and it got really ugly. Now her ex have restraining orders against each other. She won't let him see the kids...They have been to cout 3 times in 2 months. Too much of a headache. Maybe he can change his number and just gice his new number to the kids.