I will make this a long story short. I have recently married and my husband has a 14 year old son. He is a GREAT child and I love him to death.

Now for the bad. His mother is a heavy drinker and has pretty much put him through hell. No one ever knew anything because she told him she would punish him if her ever said anything to anyone. The very first time I met him I knew there was something wrong because I am the child of an unstable mother. We talked and over the next year I gained his trust and he opened up to me and he told me things she has done to him that made me have to leave the room to cry. How do you look a child in the eye and tell him that everything will be ok when all he knows in insane misery??

So anyway, I made it my mission for us to get custody ( which we finally did) BUT even though my husband is the custodial parent she still wont follow the courts orders and constantly fights and threatens us. Just recently we enrolled Ty into high school and he wanted to do marching band so I signed him up. Well, she FREAKED out and accused us of going behind her back and not telling her and cutting her out of the situation. She also stated that it was illegal for me to enroll him in school ( when all I did was drop off the enrollment packet the registration office) Band camp is this week and I was to drive Ty to and from the camp but she had a melt down and now we dont even get to see him all week because she has made things so horrible for Ty that he said to just let her have her way. WHAT AM SUPPOSED TO DO??!!!!!!!!!!! This is so horrible, I am NOT trying to out do her, Im just trying to help mu husband get things in order for Ty because he is on overtime right now. I dont want to take her place, or try to show her up....and I have told her this. She even went as far as to accuse me of being a child molester because Ty txt messages me. I am so lost, hurt, and I feel betrayed by my husband and Ty because they both just put their heads down and take what this woman dishes out.

When we went to the custody hearing ( which was done amicably) she FREAKED out in the waiting room and was sceaming at me TOTALLY UNPROVOKED. She accused me of being on food stamps and told me that I NEEDED to respect her because she was the mother. I told her that respect needed to be EARNED and that wrongfully accusing me of being a molester and threating to have me removed from the home because Me and my husband werent married at the time was not a way to earn respect. She told me that she didnt have to earn my respect, that she is the mother and that I will respect her. I admit, I lost my temper and told her I would rather eat hot dog shit BUT in my defense I have been taking this womans abuse for a year AND because I promised Ty I wouldnt provoke her becuz he is the one that suffers...I promised him I would behave. And I keep my promises. This has put terrible strain on my and my husband, Im actually leaving tomorrow to go stay with a friend. I cant handle this. The mother does not follow through and I am a very thorough person. I need to know that she will be able to get all Ty's school stuff in order even though he is not in her school district and we are the ones that enrolled him. I need to know she will take him to and from band camp even though Im afraid she will be drunk when she picks him up at 9pm.

Ty is a textbook case of a child of an alcoholic. He doesnt trust, has few friends, has NEVER had a sleep over because he says he hates his mother and never knows what or how she will handle herself. Im soooo sad. I did talk Ty into seeing a therapist but the mother is constantly threatening to have it stopped because she says hes fine even though this degreed professional diagnosed him with severe depression and anxiety.

Thank you for reading my post. I thought if I typed this all out I would feel better but it hasnt. The tears have not stopped flowing down my face and my heart is still in a million pieces. Im going to lose the man I love and a child I adore. Do I stick it out and pray that I will have the strength to keep being a good influence on Ty, or do I self preserve and run, take the broken heart and get out.

God help me and others in my position.