what is wrong with cutting her hair and tinted lipgloss?it isn't makeup i dont agree with the eyebrow plucking unless her eyebrows were really bad.

are you really strict catholic or something?not that its a bad thing but if you were really hardcore religious it would make sense of why you are so upset about a haircut and some lipglos.

I have never seen anything regarding cutting hair. I know my EX took my 3 year old and shaved his head. almost to nothing, I was so upset I cried. I called my attorney, pissed beyond belief. He said there is nothing regarding that issue, common courtesy would have been nice, but it isn't required.

BM fell a day short of completing cosmetology school. (She couldn't pull her sorry ass out of bed the morning of her final exam.) She always does crap with SD's hair. She started highlighting it when SD was 8. She's 13 now & BM colored it jet-black. They have pics posted together with the black eyeliner & "smokey" eye makeup. They both have their white tank tops rolled up so their belly buttons show & their black bra straps hanging out. I guess it's their way of bonding. :sick:

Like others said, the main problem is the eyebrows and the fact that the decision was not talked through with DH.

SD has beautiful hair and her hair was all the way to her butt when she was 5, BM wanted to cut her hair and donate it to cancer patients. SD loved her hair and was convinced by BM to cut her hair, DH didn't want to, but she cut it anyway. When we asked SD if the hair was donated, she said "no, it was thrown away"... Oh and by the way, they cut her hair all the way to under her ears (you couldn't even make a pony tail). DH was pissed as well.

Why not throw some manic panic in there while she's at it?

am i the only one who thinks this is being taken a little too far?how does a haircut and lipgloss at 10 lead to stripping?my mom gave me a perm and let me paint my nails pink at 10 but i am not and have never been a stripper.i dont get it.

Did SD want her hair cut? We go through this all the time. SD begs to get her hair cut and when DH finally gets it cut, she cries to BM about how she didn't want it cut. SD is a hairy little monkey and grows hair fast and everywhere!! She donates to locks of love at least once a year. And it's a big ruckus every time.

I don't think tinted lip gloss at 10 is a big deal either. Eyebrows? Normally would be a big deal, but it depends on the kid. SD has a unibrow that she could plow a field with.

I don't see why it's such a big deal. Gasolina cuts SD's hair all the time. I can see the she should let DH have a say in it, but condemning the child to stripper hood? That's taking it a bit far. And so is questioning another parent's parenting just because she lets her daughter do it.

I let my daughter get her hair cut however she wants, and she's only 6. It's just hair. It will grow back. However, it would have been nice if BM discussed the issue with the girl's father, as he should have a say in it. If my husband was against me cutting BD's hair, I wouldn't do it. But that's because I care about what my husband thinks and care about his feelings. Your BM obviously does not.

I agree it's taking it a little far to say SD is going to end up a stripper. My BD loves makeup, and I'm sure I will let her wear tinted lipgloss when she's 10 if she asks. Not sure about the eyebrow plucking thing. I think that's something that should wait until you're a teenager, unless it's a big unibrow or something.

Did SD take care of her hair? I can see cutting it off if she was one of those kids who has long hair & doesn't take care of it. The lip gloss isn't exactly what I would think would be leading her down the road to hell, but does BM buy her age appropriate clothing. There is nothing worse than seeing little kids all sexed up. Kids today are growing up faster than we ever did.

does it ever get so bad with the nails, hair and peircings that you dont want to be seen in public with skinds. My problem is that we live in a small town and every one knows my sd 14 is going to b a hore like her mom. which is worse, nails hair and peircings or reputation. I dont know what i would do about facial peircing. :jawdrop:

I don't know why this is such a big deal. BM, the skids mother, cut her daughter's hair. Why is that any of your business?

I think the bigger question is whether the 10yr old likes her new hairdoo... it is her self-esteem.

My daughter begged me to cut her waist-length hair, it was beautiful. I did a couple of inches at a a time and sent her to the mirror, she kept saying shorter, shorter... Yikes... Well, she now has her hair long again. Some times they like to fit in--even when it detracts from themselves. Lip balm... no big deal IMHO. Eyebrow plucking... depends.. I plucked my girls eyebrows maybe even at 10. Just to give them shape, get rid of the uni-brow and the eyelid stragglers. Neatness... The problem is some people pluck tadpoles or pencil lines... not good at any age. Another point is that in an effort to retain childhood, some parents let their kids go through the gawky period--it is really unnecessary.

I am probably more liberal on this topic since my mother was a cosmetologist-- I grew up with perms, hair coloring, manicures, pedicures and make up lessons.

My sd last year (7years old) cut her own hair in the school. I got shocked, not because she did it but because she did it so well. When I picked her up I thought they were with BM at the hairdresses, then it turned out they were playing... She is a talent what should I say. BM freaked out, I was just laughing. We had a talk with her, but we agreed for Gods sake it`s just hair... I used to paint her nails and once in a while when she asks streight out her hair. I like that she is a girly girl and BM had never a bad word.

I wish BM would chop off SD's hair. It's nappy and stringy. A cute bob would be just the ticket. She's got her brainwashed into beleiving her long nappy head is gorgeous. Whatever. And we let her use whatever lipgloss she wants. It's just lipgloss, she's not rubbing a penis on her mouth.

I think it is probably very hard for you because you love your SD & want her to be the very best she can be. One of the toughest parts of being a step mom is knowing that we have none of the control & BM has it all. Correct me if I am wrong but it seems like you are afraid that BM is trying to make SD grow up to fast & turn her into herself.

IMO all you can do is have her dress age appropriate when she is with you guys and not let the rest bother you. ( easier said then done )

I must be crazy cause I don't see anything wrong with a bob cut and tinted lip gloss, not skinny jeans, and barely even mini heels. Plucking eyebrows.. maybe. But she sounds far from looking like a hoochie.

It's not the outside of your SD that's important, it's the inside. Is she doing ok in school? Do you like her friends? Helpful around the house? Respectful? If so, you've got nothing to worry about. If you're freaky now about a haircut and lipgloss, good luck with the teenage years.

Bm plucked or shaved my sd6's eyebrows! Pencil thin just like hers blech!! It would be different if she had a unibrow or something but nothing wrong with them! She is 6 yrs old for petes sake! Thank god bm never wears makeup so hopefully we don't have to worry about that anytime soon LOL.

I bought my SD these sequined flip fops with a little heel on them the other day acually. They are very cute. SO loved them too.

She wears my lip gloss and smell good body spray, always uses my lotion and sometimes wears sparkels on her eyes. and guess what? Shes 5! Does that make her a slut? No, she's 5. She wants to be a big girl, and she wants to be like her mother and me. Does that make anything wrong that we indulge her? No.

Her two fav colors are purple and pink. Wanna know why? Because purple is her mothers, and pink is mine.

I ovbisouly have quite a big roll in her life?
So, is she going to turn out to be a stripper like BM?
NO WAY IN HELL! Why? Becuase I'm around and I will make sure, I am the one being positive in her life. I am the good example. Maybe that's what you need to do. BE THE GOOD EXAMPLE