BM losing her job = what for our wallets??
BM called DH today to say that she FINALLY made pymt arrangements for her citation so he can renew his tags. And also told him that SS5 is going to go to a summer program instead of daycare which is cheaper and then he starts school in Sept. Per their agreement, CS will drop $200/mo and he was letting her know that. She then tells him that at the end of the month, she will lose her job b/c they are outsourcing it. She said she is trying to find a laterall position with the same company. So again DH said that the CS will be dropping and she kept telling him that she is losing her job.
I was laid off a yr and half ago and there was NO pity party for me, so she needs to put her big girl panties on and deal with this, just like me!! What I'm concerned she will try to take DH back to court and ask for more money. Does anyone else have experience with a laid birth parent and increased CS?
Personally, if she cant afford them, then they need to come live with us (God help me!) until she gets her shit together!! Why should we have to pay more to support her stupid ass??!??
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hopefully you guys dont.
hopefully you guys dont. Rags (another user on here) told me this wouldnt happen, because in my case, when they did the CS arrangements, BM had a job, but it was just a temporary order so DH could see SD after 6 months of no contact and they are getting ready to put a permanent CO & CS arrangement in. She lives off the government getting every type of help you can imagine. I dont think she is going to go to work anytime soon. DH has to pay 268 a month. He cant afford anymore than that and I dont think the courts will make it go up just because BM doesnt want to get another job.
Your DH will not have to pay
Your DH will not have to pay more because she's lost her job. She will need to put on the big girl panties and do whatever it takes - or the kids need to come live with you if she can't (which would probably be less expensive in the long run).
When the NCP loses their job - they still have to pay CS - they do not get a decrease. Same thing. Her "unemployment" is only a temporary thing - not a permanent thing. She can take your DH back to court all she wants, the courts will not take her unemployment into consideeration and make him pay more.
Okay that makes me feel a
Okay that makes me feel a tad better. I just feel like she has had everything else go her way so why not this too!!
Since the person paying CS
Since the person paying CS has it based off their income alone...it shouldn't matter if BM loses her job...at least not in maryland that i'm aware of. not sure if laws vary from state to state.
That's what the CS charts are for. They determine what the paying parent makes a year vs expenses for the child to determine the amount.
They don't take the receiving parents income into consideration otherwise many moms wouldnt be struggling so badly bc they'd get a lot more money by showing they make practically nothing at their jobs.
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In PA, the tables consider
In PA, the tables consider BOTH parents earning capacity (vs. income), so if Wingnut got laid off, even though her income is considered, it wouldn't matter because she is deemed to have the capacity to earn even if she isn't actually earning. It will depend on your state and how the calculation works.
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yup..in MA they also
yup..in MA they also consider both parents income. they also calculate in who has the health insurance. we are nervous right now because when the divorce happened, BM made more money that BF...then she got remarried , laid off an took a part time job. SF picked up insurance. IF she gets divorced, we need to pick the kids up on insurance (fine) and BF would want to modify to reflect...problem is..if he modifies and her pay is significantly lower, his CS could go UP instead of DOWN.
In Virginia both parents
In Virginia both parents incomes are considered and each parent is responsible for a certain percent. BM wasn't working when CS was figured, so they put her in at what she would be capable of making if she did. Since she never graduated HS, they figured her in at making $7/hr, so her percentage of responsibility was much less than DH's.
Several years ago BM got
Several years ago BM got fired from her job. She went back to court and DH's child support was increased, as BM decided to live off her then boyfriend. So in essence, what was being paid for full time daycare was then allotted to BM plus extra since she had 0 income. So there are examples of it happening. When she went back to work after her boyfriend dumped her, and put skid in full time daycare again, DH got it adjusted and it went down a little bit, but not a whole lot.
I think courts are crazy and
I think courts are crazy and it if comes to the government helping her vs your DH, watch out...I don't want to scare you, but you really need to check the laws in YOUR state...they are all very different, although one would think they are all the same or similar...good luck!
I cant find anything. I've
I cant find anything. I've looked and looked and even called and they said its a case by case scenrio! GREAT!
Ugh...this is what I'm
Ugh...this is what I'm afraid. Right now BM makes $20K more than DH. But she is the most unmotivated person EVER!!! She will be the type to just take whatever and live like a bum. And thats not fair. DH said if the courts ask him to pay more, he will quit his job b/c we can NOT afford to pay her more without OUR bills suffering. I HATE this bitch with a PASSION!
see here, the courts CAN
see here, the courts CAN take into consideration the earning capacity. so in our instance, they should say...hmm, she is only working part time with to grown children, before she worked full time...therefor her earning capacity is greater.
BUT...it is discretionary. And I think she would just need to say "this is all I can get in this economy" and BAM...done.
thank goodness our BM has
thank goodness our BM has never worked. at least i don't have to live with the stress of her losing her job and asking for MORE. one bright light!