and I can't wait to start reading it. I really hope it helps me to make sure I'm not being an idiot with most of our dealings with BM. However, I do see her side of things very easily, I just don't necessarily agree with them.

For example...last night BM asks us if we can take the kids for a few hours. Sure! We love taking the kids. My fiance told her we might as well just keep the kids overnight if they are going to be at our house until 7:30/8 anyways. BM agrees and says "Thanx!" (Sorry...just can't stand the x's and lol's and kewl's)

The reasoning for her not having the kids was that she had to get her hair done. Once again, just to clarify, we have the kids half the time and the days change throughout the week. She can EASILY schedule appointments on nights she doesn't have the kids. Just one more example of how BM just can't seem to make any sacrifices for her kids. Tanning, hair appointments, nail appointments, shopping, and going out will always be #1 in her book.

Also, SD4 freaked out when we picked them up from day care. She said, "Mommy LIED to me AGAIN!" DF said, "Mom told you she was picking you up today?" and SD4 says "Yes because I asked her if I can have some of the toaster streudels tonight and now I don't get to have any!" We looked at the daycare lady and she said that BM never mentioned the change in the pick-up either. WEIRD! Why lie? This is a recent development where SD4 gets frustrated because she believes her mommy lied to her....it's a very touchy subject because we try not to say anything to exacerbate the situation. So I just said, "Well, maybe Mommy forgot..." and that ended it. Amazing that a 4-year-old can already spot her mother's inconsistencies.................