So BM still has not gotten SD appropriate clothing for the changing weather, she sends her over here wearing last years pants that are now 2 sizes too small. I on the other hand spent $200 on new clothing to make sure she had clothes that fit and kept her warm. I already sent SD over there wearing 2 of the outfits I bought with nothing returned to me including the sneakers I bought. Instead she came back wearing sandals.... Granted we live in AZ and there isn't exactly snow on the ground, but in the mroning it pretty cold, at least for what we are acclimated to. So this time I sent SD back in the pants her mom sent over here and generally dressed her kind of... oddly but I can't afford to keep SD clothed if everything keeps disappearing... I know this is a petty thing, but I feel like her mom should have taken care of this.

When I got her to Day care her teacher who usually greets her with "SD4!!!!!!" and gives her a huge hug, came to me and said that SD4 had a bad day the day before (pretty sure she mistook me for BM.....) SD4 refused to do things with the rest of the group and only wanted to color, when she was forced to stop she would just cry. I told the teacher that she must have just been tired, but really I think I know what the reason was..... We had her for about 6 days, BM was supposed to have her for 5, she dropped her off at MIL & FIL's house for 2 of them and then day care the last one, where DH picked her up. All the last few days SD was all; mommy this and mommy that, I am going to color a picture for mommy, my mommy will be so happy, can I take this to mommy's? She spent the majority of her time coloring pictures for mommy. When I tucked her in she said in a very calm but still tearful manner "Willfull, I want to see my mommy." I said, "I'm sorry sweetie, mommy is at work, but she will pick you up tomorrow and then take you trick or treating the next day." She kind of cheered up. SD4 and BM color together whenever she is with BM, it's their bonding thing, SD wanted to keep coloring because she missed her mom and wanted to feel close to her.

I wish there was something I could do, but gently broaching the subject with BM, results in the typical "You are calling me a ad mom!" argument. So we just simply have to accept it and be there for SD. I dislike watching her miss "mommy" all the time. I try but I am no substitute- not that I want to replace or anything, but I do try to pick up whatever slack I can without making myself explode........

Ugh