So.. this morning I was undermined and treated like the evil step mother yet again.

SD4 has an obsession with changing her clothes, she had already changed them 3 times by 9 o'clock. I had told her no to changing them again, but she went in her dresser to look for clothes anyway. I said no again in a more stern tone and she got pissed. She slammed the drawer closed right onto BD1's fingers. I told her to tell BD1 she is sorry, she wouldn't so I put her in timeout. About 40 seconds into timeout DH comes out of the woodwork to kiss and hug on SD4 because she was crying and whining about being in timeout. 

I told him why SD4 was in trouble and he just said "it's fine it was not her fault". 

I'm I'm f-ing done!