Ok, I'm so glad I found this site. A little background.. I have an almost 4 yr old sd and an 8 month old bio daughter. I really do love my sd. Her mom and I get along pretty good.. Sd is over every other weekend and then also once or twice a week if her mom needs to work. My husband works a lot, so I have sd most if the time. Sd can be sweet, and I really do love her, but lately things have been not so good. I have her by myself all day and I set rules. She refuses to help clean her room, and climbs on the furniture and jumps on the couch etc.. When I tell her to stop she will just stare at me and keep doing it. I put her in timeout when she just refuses to listen. She screams in public if she's told no.. And as a sm I feel helpless. She has been hitting me lately when I put her in timeout. I feel like my husband puts waaay too much on me. He doesn't want to give her a freaking bed time. I said she needs some structure and should be in bed by 9 so the adults can at least have an hour ( especially me after having her and the baby all day) and he gets all upset. Then I feel like the wicked stepmother once again because I'm having to put my foot down about something. When he goes and tells her it's bed time she screams and says no she wants to play and then he's just like ok... I'm like hello!!!! You are letting her dictate waaay too much. If we go somewhere he just basically let's me chase after her and deal with her behavior while he zones out. It's not fair. I have explained this to him.. That I'm always having to keep after her and that should be more of his job, but he just lets her do whatever. I went out if town one weekend with some family and when I came home, the house was destroyed. It was obvious he didn't watch her and just let her run wild. I'm getting really fed up/ stressed out. I need some support and just to know I'm not crazy! When she hit me today for the second time I just wanted to snap. Ughh! I hate feeling this way. ):