Trying to have a baby. How many women over 40 here?
Ok. This is off topic again. Sorry.. But I am 41 my dh is 39 and we are trying to have a baby here that is our own, not my bio or his bio.. Just wondering if anyone knows of any natural herbs that we can try to have a baby. I know this sounds wacky but I would really like to try the natural method first. We have tried making love every night, but have missed a few days which I am afraid was during my ovulation.. Yet another month and yet another period that has started. Big let down here.. If anyone can help please let me know...
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folic acid and depending on
folic acid and depending on your climate maybe some Vit D.....ask your regular dr. they know your body best.
One more suggestion, having
One more suggestion, having too much intercourse can and will lower sperm counts. Its best to figure out when you will be ovulating and then starting five days before, have intercourse every two days for ten days.
Good luck
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I bought some Fertilaid
I bought some Fertilaid vitamins online, not sure if they'll help, but I am desperate. Can I offer you some advice, though? Please see your ob/gyn and ask for an FSH 3 -day blood test to see if your egg quantity is diminishing so that you know if you have problems even if you're still trying the natural method. A few months can be precious during this process and at your age. I was only 37 when I found out my egg supply is severely diminished and almost beyond help even with radical fertility treatment. The sooner you find out, the better your chances of making good choices.
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Red Raspberry leaf for you,
Red Raspberry leaf for you, and Saw Palmetto for your partner. Stay away from caffeine and alcohol, as these affect fertility. Some women take baby aspirin every day to help the lining of their uterus. There's a specific Robitussin that makes your fluids more conducive to sperm. Vitamin B16 and B12 help some. Also stay away from certain lubricants that kill sperm. Preseed is a lubricant for couples Trying To Conceive.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
Cantmissamy, It is terrible
Cantmissamy,
It is terrible to be trying to have a child and not seem to be able to. Me and my DH tried for a year before anything happened. It broke my heart every month that I got my period. I would cry everytime.
I have been told that taking a prenatal vitamin supplement with folic acid can help. Some women get pregnant every month but the pregnancy doesn't attach. So if you are having regular sex then maybe taking a prenatal vitamin, while refraining from drinking and smoking, will help. Also when you do get pregnant your baby will have the added benefit of already having the vitamins in your system.
I'm sorry, but I do not have
I'm sorry, but I do not have any advice on herbal supplements, BUT - I do want to say this to you.... if it is something you really want, please do not give up and please do not be discouraged.
I will be 38 soon and my DH is 39. I had over a dozen miscarriages by the time I was 30. At 35, they told me I would never be able to have children and took me off birth control, as it wasn't necessary because I wouldn't even be able to get pregnant at that point. Two days before my period was to start in Oct. 2008, I had what I thought was implantation bleeding - I knew I was pregnant. I called the Dr. and he insisted there was no way. I explained all of what I had going on and he still said no way - he didn't even want to send me for the blood test. He did send me for some other tests that day, because there had to be something going on. When I got home that night, I took 2 home tests which said I was.
I now have a 5-month old son who is absolutely healthy and the light of my life! I wish you all the baby dust in the world!!!
That is a great story! "God
That is a great story!
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
I am also 40 and trying to
I am also 40 and trying to have a baby. Though lately my husband and I have been battling his thinking we should not have children because I grow stressed out when I am placed as soul caretaker of my two skids and he thinks that if I am that selfish about being home with them all day that I will be just as selfish with our own kids. I hate this line of thinking. He refuses to understand that being a Stepmom is not the same. He sees it no differently because he would rather see me AS their mother. This is a compliment, but no less the skids do not have the same bond with me and never will.
I have tried the preseed and it did work, though I miscarried the child in the 9th week. Good luck!!!
It's NOT the same, and don't
It's NOT the same, and don't let him try to make you feel bad for being honest and realistic. For him to hold having a child of your own over your head until you mother his children how he sees fit is manipulative and unfair. Stepchildren are not tests you have to pass or fail before you can have a child of your own. You can be a perfectly capable warm and loving mother to your own child, and not be able to handle someone else's child, or love them as your own. It disgusts me when a second wife is expected to pass tests these men know their first wives didn't have to.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."