Where to even start... I reconnected with my husband three years ago in March. He has a son from a previous relationship. His son was 20 months old when I can into the picture. My husband went to court about six months after we moved in together and got Sole Legal and Physical custody of his son. The BM was NOT happy to say the least. She hated me from the minute that she knew I was in the picture. I didn't expect her to like me, but I honestly thought that she wouldn't come to use her son as a weapon against me. We have had many battles to say the least over the last few years. My husband and I have been married for two years now. My SS, who is 5 now, has figured out that he can get a reaction out of his mother by telling her that I have done something horrific to him. Over the summer we I was home with our children I became the disciplinarian of our household. I was home more with the kids. He has NO RULES at his BM's house. I believe he started to resent the fact that I made him mind and he has to follow rules at our house. We also don't give him everything he want's either. To spare all the little details, my SS has now began telling his mother that I am physically abusing him. He doesn't get spanked by me. The DH takes that part over. He got a bruise at football practice and told his BM that I did it. Needless to say that DFS was at our house the next morning after they talk to the SS. He told them NOTHING that she had made the report about. She of course denies ever calling DFS and put it on a friend who I had a falling out with. I talked to that friend and she didn't call. So instead of talking to my husband about what the son was saying she assumes that his word is all truth and springs into action. I understand being concerned if your child says that he is being abused, but wouldn't you ask first especially when we have had issues like this before with lying?? My SS know his mother hates me. She has admitted to saying derogatory things herself and her family about me in front of him. I think he wants to make his mom happy and tell her what he thinks she want's to hear...negative things about me. He was also doing this with us. Tell us bad things about his mom. We finally said, "Okay, we are going to ask her about this, is this the truth or a story?" When he realized that we weren't messing around about asking her he stopped. I believe that he is looking for sympathy and more attention from his mother. This lying has caused a strain in my relationship with my SS. I want to fix this problem before it get any worse. When my husband tries to talk to the mom he only gets, "yeah, ok, whatever" as responses from her. It's like dealing with a child!!! She is mad because she has limited time with her son. I understand that, but shouldn't we all be on the same page?? What more can I do to prevent him from lying about me to his mother??

Thanks for listening!