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My BF's Son/SS told my son and I to be quiet!!

msheretostay09's picture

I have to vent about this because it's still something that is NOT sitting to well with me. On a weekend that BF had his boys (SS12 and SS6) we were all going to the gokarts and while we were getting out of the car, BM called SS12's cellphone to speak with her boys. Now, we were all laughing and joking when she called talking about something on their level and out of no where, SS12 goes, "Shhhhhhh" Finger against his lips and all... Sad I stopped in my tracks looked at my BF and gave him this look like, "OH HELL NO HE DIDN't JUST TELL ME TO SHHHUSH?" So I tried to put it behind me but I was LIVID the rest of the day! I talked to BF about it and he said he would talk to SS12 about it later.

So later when my BF talked to his son, his son stated clearly that his mom gets mad when they mention us and things we do. Example: He told his mom that "daddy's gf likes to ride gokarts" (and I do and I'm very competitive with it lol) and she pissed over that - - or maybe it's something else she's pissed about but either way, she shouldn't take it out on her children. So him telling us to be quiet was so BM wouldn't hear and get mad. BM has issues.

Now my question was, what is really her problem?? She knows about me. I met her before. What's the big deal? I was pissed because even though my BF told his son that it was inappropriate to shush me, I mean, I am an adult lol, I still felt some kind of way about the guilt trip that BM is putting on her children! Why would he think that she would get mad for hearing us in the background? It really got me to me because I'm thinking that they get in trouble alot when they mention Daddy and new girlfriend when they are at home w/ BM? I mean honestly, I'm in no competition with her...I just have a different parenting style. I like to do things with my own son so if they are with us, then they would automatically be included. I like art/crafts, I like to do activities that engage them instead of babysit them -- I like to do family things and she doesn't. PERIOD. So of course the boys are going to have a good relaxing time when we are all together. I'm not sure if this even makes sense to you guys but - - BM is a childish, controlling, ugly person, who uses her children as pawns and it's not sitting well with me! At all! But there is nothing that I can do... Sad

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startingover2010's picture

jealousy. but dont let it ruin your day or time. i did/do that all the time and it isnt healthy. ignore bm as best u can. as long as the skids have respect and dont turn family outings into nightmares, who cares how bm feels?

maybe u guys can be quiet when ss is on the phone with bm, for ss's sake. he is in a hot spot cause bm put him there---not fair for anyone. it really shouldnt impact your lives too too much, unless he is on the phone 24/7 with her.

good luck.

msheretostay09's picture

Yes, I totally agree. I've started walking away from SS when BM calls. Even when she calls my BF I just walk away because I internalize everything and the stress of her acting an effin fool just makes me sick to my stomach and NO, it's not healthy at all. BF deals with it better because he doesn't let her or her bs bother him, it's like NO sweat off of him. So I guess it's something that I really have to work on handling it so that OUR familly structure stays solid.

"Sometimes it's best to forget what you want and remember what you deserve."