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BM's why must they feel like they are in competition?!?!?!

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Submitted by momgoingnuts on Wed, 08/12/2009 - 1:20am

Ok BM never had any problem's until me and DH started getting serious..... BOOM now the true b**ch comes out.
She was always jumping from one guy to the next until me n DH got serious then she found a man (who is almost the same age difference as me and DH which BM always critisized (sp?) before)when we got engaged she got engaged
when we told skids when our date was she hurried and got a date before ours, o and she's still totally hung up on DH pathetic i know,she's tried everything in the book to get the skids to hate me it's like wouldnt u be happy
if i'm good to your kids but she's not she get's in there heads tries to tell them that i'm jealous of her bla bla bla...well she's finaly run out of things to do so she's taking DH back to court to move the skids outta state,
but what can i say some ppl have nothing else going in there lives for them so they have to try to top/copy
others but she can never be as young or as pretty as me so haha on her! Biggrin
i have to say this is like the best website i have ever found FINALY some where to vent cuz let me tell u my friends n family have got to be gettin sick of hearin it!

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Submitted by stuckinthemiddle on Wed, 08/12/2009 - 8:58am

but BM sure is. It was the same way with BM and me. She seemed okay with me until my DH started getting serious and suddenly I was a constant in his life and the kids. BM is not so much in competition with me personally just what I do with the kids. I spend a lot of time doing girly things with my SD7 and she seems to want to compete with that. When I style SD7 hair a certain way she comes back from BM house suddenly styled the same way. How obvious. She never did anything with her hair other than take her to get bad short cuts until I started styling her hair. One time SD7 went to BM house for the morning and came back with her hair style completed changed later that day. SD7 said her mom wanted "to do something different". Whatever, these BM are just jealous that now they have to share their children with other women because of the choices they made. They can't handle someone else doing a good and possibly better job of caring for the kids than them.

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Submitted by pafreema on Wed, 08/12/2009 - 9:54am

I so KNOW how you feel. I have one of those. I wrote a blog similar to this one a few days ago.

IT'S KIND OF SAD THAT THEY ARE SO INSECURE IN THEIR OWN SKIN. THEY HAVE TO TRY TO BE YOU THAN TO BE THEMSELVES.

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Submitted by Abigail on Wed, 08/12/2009 - 11:13am

But she sure is with me. I don't have to compete. He loves me and hates her. I guess she really doesn't get it does she? Or maybe it's DH she is competing with and not us at all. BM had a druggie BF that killed himself. I have a great job and am more attractive than she is. DH did way better than BM in the moving on department. Maybe that is what is killing BM.

Isn't really that BM's just don't want DH to be happy so they want to ruin it for them?

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

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Submitted by msheretostay09 on Sun, 08/30/2009 - 9:12am

I don't think that BM's believe that DH's can be happy with anyone but them! BM's would like DH's to fall flat on their faces after divorce and come crawling back and when that doesn't happen and DH is now totally happy with new beautiful, inshape girlfriend who has her head on straight, with respectable income AND most of all is a great role model for the kids... then yes -- that's when the fires start popping up all over the place. LOL When the scales are that uneven... lol WHY COMPETE??

I love this site!

"Sometimes it's best to forget what you want and remember what you deserve."

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Submitted by HummingBirdHunny on Sun, 08/30/2009 - 5:09pm

BM is only in competition with me in regards to the kids. She has openly admitted that she and DH are better off friends rather than being together. They haven't been together in quite a while. Thank god. As far as her competing with me over the kids. I don't play into it the way she wants. She feels that she can go against us when we say one thing but that's only because she wants to manipulate them. I refuse to give in when they want stuff each and every time. The only example I can give is SD wants us to allow her to get a cell phone we said no, BM wants to give SD her old tracphone anyways! Yet we get told she doesn't want to go against us! Doesn't seem that way to me!

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Submitted by frustrated454 on Mon, 08/31/2009 - 3:17pm

At first I think bm was in competition with me.
She was so used to telling my dh she was leaving him every other day that when he finally said "don't come back" he meant it he was done.
he didn't start dating me for a while after and as soon as it got serious she wanted him back. I am 13 yrs younger then bm and I think at first she thought we weren't serious.
When we were first married, she would treat me like a babysiter to her kid. When my husband had to work on the weekend she had to have him. My bs was at his father's but since she had plans she was yelling at my dh why can't your wife watch him
does she have plans? i freaked out about that.
all and all I actually have no problems with bm now at all and I kind of like her and I think she likes me. I have no hard feelings about her and she doesn't seem to for me either.
She has her own happy life now and on the whole dh and her have a cordal relationship. my main problem is with how they both let ss get away with everything and anything. My son's bf was actually worse he would tell me I would not get married and if I did I would be divorced in 6 months. Now he seems to realize he was wrong and he has his own life going on to.
As a bm my only concern was how his gf's treated my son and that is still my only concern. The better they treat him the happier I am.