If you don't have a parenting plan or court order in place, get one. If you don't have joint legal custody, fight for it. Document everything, and bring all your documentation to court!

I'm surprised to hear this is an issue. I thought most states don't allow BioParents to move out of state w/ the children.

What is her reasoning for this or will she say? It will probably hurt her and them just as much as you guys. But if you have a really contentious relationship with BM, it may bring some peace? but definitely fight it in court if you can afford attorney!
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whats wrong with you? u have the oppurtunity many of us will NEVER have, and that is not dealing with skids on a regular basis!!!! lucky girl!!! bm needs to deal with them, not you. allow yourself to have an actual marriage without bullshit!

My husband managed to gain full custody of both of my skids when BM wanted to move way down to Texas and we live in Indiana. BM then took them to Texas anyways for "vacation" but somehow managed to get stuck there due to lack of money as she claims. Long story short, he got an attorney...fought to get the kids back here because he wanted to be in their lives.

So if your dh really wants to be a part of their lives I am sure he can push to keep the kids in the same state if that's the case. But it may also depend on how much of a relationship he currently has with the kids now. Does he see them often? Does he take part in school events...things like that. Good luck.

I would for sure make sure to request that if for some rediculous reason the judge does allow her to move, that BM should be responsible for all transportaton costs for your DH's time with the kids.

She's making it more difficult, she should pay.

I would think that any attorney should be able to show the Court why it is not in the child's best interest to be moved away from their current school, home, friends, and most of all their dad!

I'm very sorry if you happen to be in one of the places that "the best interest of the child" is only a new sentance on a piece of paper and not the guideline the Courts are supposed to use in making decisions for a child.

I do wish you all the luck, hang in there.

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and I---
I took the one less traveled by,
and that made all the difference. -Robert Frost-