I'm blown away...
At this very moment, I am just utterly amazed...
BM is moving... OUT OF STATE!!!! WOW. We found out last night, and she's leaving SS behind with us- just like that. She told DH that they were leaving this SATURDAY!!! :shocked: - Talk about short notice...
but wait... it gets better...
So, we agree to have SS go over and spend the week with her and his siblings before they leave. Apparently, though, today, plans changed- (not surprised, really) and now they are leaving WEDNESDAY!!!!! :jawdrop: :shocked: :puzzled:
Yeah, so there you go folks... Wow... I'm just blown over and utterly amazed at her decision making process. BLOWN AWAY!!!!
OldTimer 
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OldTimer
"Knowledge is often mistaken for intelligence. This is like mistaking a cup of milk for a cow."
Huh?
What, is someone chasing her? Why is she moving so fast? Suspicious, but great!! I think?
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
That is good news OT!
I would rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I am not.
Our bm lives in a different state and it makes a world of difference, I wouldnt have it any other way. Does your bm have custody of ss? If so, I would talk to dh about going and immediatly filing for a modification in the decree for change of custody. Many dh's take custody of their children,and still have to pay c.s to the bm's. Good luck to you both!
Yikes
My Sd's BM did the same thing to us so I understand what you are going through. My husband and I were living in a single bedroom apartment at the time so we had to find another place and get moved in IN THREE DAYS! She called Friday and told us she would be dropping them off with us Monday morning. I was shocked just like you.
What makes a woman just decide to ditch her kids like that? Totally out of the blue even????
**edit**
If your Bm was crazy like ours it will turn out to be a very good thing. Alot of the drama left when she drove her crazy behing over that state line:)
Having a baby does not make you a mother.
just a friendly warning
My sd moved in with us in 2006, bm signed over rights in 2007 and then died in 2009. SD has been total brat this year. I thought that with the bm TOTALLY out of picture that maybe we could have some closure and move on from her drama, but SD wants to blame someone I guess so that person has been me (SM). I wish her BM was still in the picture. Even though she was a loser it was easier on all of us. Now that she knows I am the one and only mom she has now she resents the hell out of me. It sucks.
Thanks for the replies everyone...
To answer some of your responses...
We no longer pay CS for SS. About two years ago, when BM was pregnant with her fourth child, she was on the happy giddy train, just married, and she offered to drop the cs saying that she didn't need it anymore!! WE JUMPED ON THAT TRAIN!!! Within 24 hours, we were in the lawyers office, got a stipulation written up, and bam... signed by a judge. Neither BM nor DH pay CS for SS. And they both share 50/50 custody anyway.
Second, she's moving because her H got laid off for the second or third time in the last few years. The industry that he works in is not very stable here in our state, and companies are pulling out. BM doesn't work, and I guess her H scrambled around for a job, supposedly has a job lined up in Tenn- which is where some of BM's family moved to about five years ago, give or take. So, they are moving in with her sister. And then, supposedly, if that job doesn't work out for her H, then apparently, he has another one lined up in Arkansas. So that's why the fast move. And she is not allowed to move SS out of our county... so she has no choice but to abandon SS with us. Because she knows that if she took SS with her, we'd be in court faster than you can say contempt. She knows that there is no way we would allow SS to go with her.
I don't believe that BM has ever lived outside of our state and this explains the odd behavior and previous emails that she had been sending DH- she questioned DH if he was ever interested in moving... um, no... and not that I would move anywhere near you AGAIN!!! HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
I am worried a bit about this, because for one, I worry that SS might resent his mom for abandoning him like this. But this will be great from a stability stand point because we will be able to keep him focused, and on task for school, activities, etc. without that major switch from going back and forth from BM's and our home.
If anything, if we have to go back to court, it will be for my SD. We're pretty much finished with SS's mom and she had a major life changing event happen, which in turn really has worked in our favor and she doesn't pull any drama anymore like she used to in the past. The chip was whacked off her shoulder, so to say.
OldTimer
"Knowledge is often mistaken for intelligence. This is like mistaking a cup of milk for a cow."
Don't get to happy
Our BM also moved out of state and we got SS full-time but damn we had a ton of phone calls, text messages etc... while she was out of state and then 8 months later she moved back and started back up where she left off and now I had SS full-time so her moving was the worse thing for me
Yeah, I expect this..
she is an obsessive caller, but I got SS his own phone! LOL... GET OFF MY LINE LADY!!! LMAO!!! He can't text thought, because he's on a prepaid, so he's limited.
I set SS up (he's 13 btw) with a FB page, and so he can keep in touch informally with her that way, plus I'm attached to his account. Kinda creepy how that all worked out though, because we originally were setting it up with him and all his friends. I also gave BM an old webcam we had, so she can video call in from time to time, and SS will be able to see his brothers and sister that way. I don't really mind that stuff. It's his mom, and he should have contact with her... but I am getting prepared for a constant ambush of communication from her once the shock sets in and 'cabin fear' set in...
And yes, there is a major major possibility that she won't like it and will move back... that is not at all out of her MO. But, I'm going to think positive, and enjoy this while I can!!! LOL
OldTimer
"Knowledge is often mistaken for intelligence. This is like mistaking a cup of milk for a cow."
can she...
take our bm with her???? pretty please!!!!!
Geeh... get's better... what else is new?
Found out today, that the plans changed, yet again... guess they are leaving tonight. :puzzled:
Got to I love how her life dictates what happens in mine... but at least, not for long! Whew!
OldTimer
"Knowledge is often mistaken for intelligence. This is like mistaking a cup of milk for a cow."
It's official...
We now have "permanent" custody of SS... "Congratulations, it's a boy!"
And remarkably, my SS hasn't shown one once of any stress, or that he's upset by this... infact, DH and I both think he's actually relieved by this. No more back and forth, back and forth. But come a few weeks from now, when it kicks in that he's not going back and forth, that's when we think it will hit him. But you know, he is really upbeat, he's extremely chatty (and when he's chatty, he's happy) and laughing, smiling, really taking the high road on this. I'm so proud of him!
I guess BM tried to talk him into going with her at one point, but he turned her down. That should tell you something!
OldTimer
"Knowledge is often mistaken for intelligence. This is like mistaking a cup of milk for a cow."