honestly, the only reason I can think is because she and her husband are struggling financially... everyone in this state is.

See the last two years have been well, interesting with her. She did a complete 180 and we don't have the drag out, knock out bickering fights like we used too. In turn, because everything is now so civilized with her, it's given her a false sense of friendship. We honestly do not trust a bone in her body, but as long as she's being nice, we respond in turn. But, it's a double edge sword, because she now thinks we're all peachy and 'one big family', when no... we're not. We're civilized, like normal human beings do with one another that don't get along.

I don't think she has a lot of friends, either. Her family moved out of state a few years ago- sister and mother- so she's pretty lonely. Her mother and sister just came and visited a few days last week, and I think part of this is that they left and now she's missing them. But, we have obligations here in this state that are not JUST to her son. We've got family here, and what's interesting to me is that her husband's family all live here as well. She asked because both her and her husband would like to move, but she can't because she can't move SS out of state... that would mean we would have full custody, and she can't live without her kids.... hence, she has to stay here in our county.

DH and I aren't looking to move out of this state until he retires and the kids are gone. I don't know what gave her the impression that we would even consider it, since last Christmas, she tried to hit us up on transferring to another part of the state, which we promptly turned down. Besides, my DH's job is here. He's got 10 more years before he retires, and we have our eyes on purchasing a new place about that time- out of the city. We are looking forward to the day we move away from HER!!!!

The other reason I can only think that also added to this is that she has a SS of her own, but they 'sent' him to visit his mother one summer, and he's NEVER come back. So, that should tell you something...

We also don't want to move SS out of his school district. We want him to grow up with all his friends, and keep those long relationships. That's the only stable solid thing he has is our home, his school, because BM moves literally twice a year. This is the only way we can really force her to keep some stability, is by "keeping put".

Personally, I really don't know what's she thinking by even suggesting it...

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