You be who as sassy as you want to be.

What was your intent? Was it malicious? I don't think so.

I think it was to let people know that you don't think it's okay to bash children, no matter how hard they are to take. I agree with you to an extent, I believe children a lot of times are merely a product of their parents. Mine included.

Maybe open your eyes to only those who you deem worthy of listening to. I have a few friends here who's skids are tough to take, and even though I don't know their path or have the capacity to understand it first hand, I listen with open eyes, arms and ears because they are good people. Others I don't take the time to listen, nor do I respond.

There are beautiful flowers in this garden along with the weeds, but everything in life seems to be that way. Enjoy the flowers and just pay no attention to the weeds.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

"but it was what I needed to vent at that moment just like evryone elese on here". That's why were all on here....to vent

As you've seen in the past, we SP's have been smacked around for our views and been expected to either change how we feel or defend ourselves. Which is why you probably received so many comments. I've seen us SP's attacked many times in the months I've been on this site, with an all emcompassing blog stating we're horrible people to hate/dislike/b**ch about our skids.

I'm sorry to hear you've been through the wringer as well. I'm impressed you were brave enough to remarry, let alone remarry a man with children.

If DH and I ever divorce I will probably remain single to avoid being in this situation again. While I knew being a SP would be a huge challenge and very difficult at best, I never in a million years thought I would actually come to dislike a 13 y/o girl as much as I do my step-demon. And before you comment I just need you to understand this isn't a misunderstood or innocent child I'm complaining about. It's a malicious 13 y/o girl who was completely aware of her actions and the inevitiable results.

Thank you for writing to us all and replying about your earlier post. I do appreciate it!

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine

Girl I'm on the front lines with you. I'm always a easy target for things like: you reap what you so, karma, what goes around comes around, if he'll do it with you he'll do it to you, blah blah blah blah. Always! The moment I retaliate I'm the bad guy. I know how it is my friend. Just speak the truth. Those who want to hear it will listen, those who don't will continue to bash. I won't be surprised if this thread turns into some of the same.

I mean honestly, maybe addressing every member at ST may have been the only mistake. Because then everyone took offense ya know..........but I do remember the one girl that said she didn't take offense because she didn't think it applied to her! I know when I was a kid if my mom called all us kids to the room and started fussing about something in paticular, I really didn't care if I wasn't the one who did it!

You are okay in my book. You had enough never to stand up and say something that alot of us want to from time to time, but just don't have the backbone to say.

~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~

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Sassy, I cant believe how many comments you received so quickly. Last time I read them they were at 52 and counting. Maybe you set the record? Im amazed how quickly the response was to comment then to just ignore it.

Once I was in a bad place mentally, and I was not on for a while and the first blog I read after about 3 months, was somone bashing her stepkid and calling her horrible names. I think the SD was 7 It just hit a nerve and I called her a nasty bitch. Ough I regretted that. Know I know which blogs I want to read and which to ignore.

I agree sometimes it get too much, kids are still just kids.

First of all, my dear, can I just say that when I posted my thoughts yesterday, I asked CG to read it and see if I was going to cause (her quote) a sh*t storm. Because that was not my intent in my post. Although, I was slightly afraid that was what was going to happen. So, thanks for taking all the focus off mine.

Second, good communication skills 101: Don't use the following words: always, never, everyone, every time, etc.

Third, my fellow STalkers (I like this term. Good job, person who came up with it!), remember, no one on here uses good communication skills 100% of the time. We're human. We just don't.

I understand the need to vent. It'll blow over, and if people want to hold grudges, then keep them out of your garden. They can follow their own advice and not read what you write if they don't like it.

CG, nice metaphor. As always.

To every thing there is a season.

Although I may have had my own opinions about your blog, who cares! You are an individual and you can say whatever you want. I was not offended, just wondered why you would come here if everything was good with you and your stepfamily situation... I mean, I probably wouldn't.

If you hadn't posted your blog, we would have had nothing to talk about! Playing the devils advocate (not that I'm suggesting you did that), is a good thing sometimes.