He must really feel that if you don't have equal amounts of pics then the kids won't feel equally as loved. Well guess what, that's your house and your daughter. Of course you have more pics of her up than you do kids that are not your flesh and blood.

My situation, I have a SD 21..2 pics in the house on the wall. SD 15...2 pics on the walls. BS 14..2 pics on the walls, and mine and DH's BD who is almost two. Let me see here, if I count them all up I've got.............................7 pics of her on my walls.

I'm not hanging up 7 pics of kids that aren't mine. Sorry, not gonna happen.

I would suggest that you sit him down and calmly ask him why is this such a issue with him. Does he feel that his kids will notice, because trust me they won't. Does he feel that his kids are being pushed out....if so then just help him to understand that he's a little looney but you love him....just because you hang more pics of your BD doesn't mean that his kids are being pushed out! LOL

Good luck!

~all you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust...and sometimes a machine gun~

if he wants the pictures of them up, then let his A$$ hang them. LOL. He can't complain if he isn't willing to do it himself. Next time he complains about it then say, "Well, then hang some." Let him get the frames, put the photos in the frames, and hang them. IF he actually gets to the hanging part, then you could show him appropriate placement of them, so they aren't just randomly thrown on your walls.

I am guessing his exwife has the majority of the kids pics anyway. My skids BM does. She never gave us many of their school pictures and never let us know when we could order them ourselves either, so I don't have a lot of pictures of them to hang anyway.

"They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I just wish he didn't have so much confidence in me."

fmil always gripes about how i make scrapbooks for my bd and how theres so many pics of bd up on the wall and barely any of sd. this is because sd was gone for a whole year and as far as the scrapbooking goes, i dont like my sd as she treats me badly so why should i bother to make her one? besides, her bm should do that.

your dh seems to just want to pick a fight. let it go and dont ever take any pics of your bio child down.

BM doesn't share pics are let us know when they are being taken. They act like BM's house is their real house anyway. I was going to do a family photo but hello, the skids were so nasty, I don't want anything to do with them now. DH can't have it both ways. Let them act like brats but then wonder why you don't put pictures up every where.

I lost interest and gave up and started just putting up pictures of my own kids. If he's wants pictures of his kids up, he can do it himself. Knowing my DH, that will never happen.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

I started my own shrine in my home office. I am also adding pictures of my other family members, my friends, etc. That's my place to go and be in my own happy world.

I left up a wedding picture with all our kids and SD's graduation photo so it's not obvious that I am leaving them out. But really, I think if DH wants pictures up of his skids, he can do it himself.

Also, I think it's normal to take more pictures of the baby. Even biological parents do this.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

with my first and currently I have several pictures of SS all over the house. In the living room, dining room, on the fridge etc. Now when the baby comes I will do the every 3mth pictures of it but I will also gets pictures made of baby and SS. Have you had any made of the baby and your skids together. Like our SS BM took SS and her new son to get pics made. Her BF that she lives with has 3 girls plus the new son plus he pays the bills as she does not work. Well when they went to get the pictures BM would not let the girls be in any of them and it hurt her BF cause she only wanted her kids in the picture well I see her point but she could have had some with all her BF kids done to.

I love my SS and most of his photos I have around are cute snapshots I have framed.

I so feel for you on this one....I am SICK AND TIRED of looking at SD9's face (2 huge 8x10's) propped on our dresser. The first pic is cute and innocent enough, the second she looks like a little lolita! She has 2 very high and messy pigtails on either side of her head(which I think is not an appropriate looking hairdo for a 9 year old who is as big as a 14 year old) a black velvet sleeveless dress that she probably borrowed from her half sister who is 13 and a big elaborate choker with all these fake pearls hanging off of it in strings that came from no doubt her white trash mother who has notoriously bad fashion sense as well as a reputation! Not to mention the LIPSTICK she is wearing!! Hello pigtails and lipstick??!!

The whole get up reminds me of a britney spears/ trashy schoolgirl video! BF admits he also cannot stand the pic but insists on displaying it proudly.

I would do my best to just ignore what your DH is saying...not that I usually advocate ignoring eachother in healthy relationships but you probably have some bigger fish to fry.

Let him have his own pics in his wallet or on his own dresser if he would like to put them there I suppose. But why should he and try and make you feel guilty about it??

we never really fought about..(amazing!) I do my best to put equal amounts of pictures of both kids up. He has several LARGE portraits of snowshyte that were done professionally when she was like 6 and they're really nice but I refuse to see a giant picture of her hanging on my walls when I walk into my house. We save wall space for paintings and other artwork and just have our pictures on tables and in display cabinets. But those gigantic portraits of her never see the light of day. Our walls would be covered if I put up every stinkin picture of her dance portraits n stuff like that.

OH, Just a side note...we DO NOT have pictures of our children or any family members in our bedroom. It KILLS the purpose of your master bedroom space. DH used to insist on keeping pictures of Snowshyte in our room and finally I started stashing them in nighttables and dressers everytime he put them back up...then I started putting them where he couldn't find them until we finally had a huge tiff about it. I was like,"um...I don't want to be making love to you while your princess's photos leer at me!!!" Then he backed off with, "hmm...good point. you win."

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

When I first moved in with DH there were pics of his two kids that BM left on the walls..I didn't tough them and I didn't add any of my son either. When we moved he didn't hand any pics of his kids but i did hand some of my son but he plays every friggin' sport you can think of and DH coaches all of the teams so we get a pic of the two of them. BM wont agree to allow skids to play any sports so we don't have any sport pics of them to hand up. We now have a 5 month old daughter...since my "baby" is 12 and a boy you can only imagine how photo crazy i've gone with my baby girl! I hang new pics all the time..I think only once DH mentioned there not being any pics of skids anywhere hanging in the house...told him "well what's stopping you from putting some up". Still don't see any up...

I tried to hand a baby pic of each of the kids in the hallway but BM wouldn't give a pic of SS7 so I didn't put the pic's up because I didn't want him to feel left out. The earliest pic I have of him is when he was 2 so I told DH guess we have to wait for our daughter to turn 2 before I can put their pic up. I wanted to do a then and now kind of thing in the hallway to their rooms but I guess it'll have to wait...

Good luck

I take SD in for photos. Her BM has professional pics done and so do we. Neither of us share. If SD wants to take a wallet or something small to give to BM we let her. My H and I have 2 BS. Who are young and get their pics done often too. But I do keep it fair I have 1 up of each child (the most current), 1 up of just the 3 kids together, and 1 family pic up with all of us in it. Before my H and I were married but had BS (oldest) I had like a shrine to him and few pics of SD...things changed after we got married.

Fo me it was hard to distingush between BM and SD. When I saw SD I saw BM. But I don't do that anymore...for me things got easier and I get more understanding as time passes.

We have primary custody, and the kids were 3, 4, and 6 when we married, so I never really thought about it. We just had pictures done and yes, we always took one of just the kids by themselves and gave it to bio-mom.

When my son was born, the skids mom actually asked me to continue just a picture of her three, so she could have one without my son in it. I told her that was her responsibility. When I take a FAMILY photo, it will have family in it. I don't even think my son has figured out the whole "step" thing yet, but he does know his siblings have 2 mommies- Miss Debby and me.

Side note- We recently went to court appointed mediation. We had it placed in the agreement that each family would have their own sets of Senior portraits taken and would "share" photos. We all agreed this would allow for different tastes and locations. I have a feeling when she finds out how expensive it will be, she'll never have photos done, and will want some of ours. I've already made sure to get a price guide so she can pay for her own prints of any photos we have taken.
"I HAD to pick the road less traveled..."

lets see probably 50 million pics of my kids and my family..
Now as far as MiniMoo, umm lets see there are 2 in our bedroom on DH's nightstand so I don't have to see it when I wake }:)
And in our living room there is a family pic, I took in april on our couch! 1 picture with SD thats it. I see her enough.
DH doesn't say anything about it I am not sure he even notices!

Now let me say this Moo Cow called DH bitching about us having no family pictures with miniMoo, but we don't get pictures taken IDK why.. Just don't!!
Moo Cow also bitched about my mothers ring... That is doesn't have MiniMoo's stone in it. :jawdrop:
DH says "Umm that's my fault I do all that kind of stuff for hopeless. I said "NO I AM NOT HER MOTHER, why would she be in my "MOTHERS RING?"

UHHH

What I can't get over sometimes is why we are fighting about things like this. Why is our feelings more important than our spouses in situations like this? I hear what people say, but I still don't understand why, if the spouse has an opposite feeling, it's less valid because that's them and not us?

So in a situation where you don't want the pics, but he does... why should your feelings be respected and not his? And why should his and not yours? It is BOTH of your home, correct?

I don't feel completely qualified to speak because I have no children of my own, except for SD. But I can tell you that there is a table in my entranceway that is filled with pictures of family. My family is DH, myself and SD. Then there's my mom and dad and family on my side, DH mom and dad and family on his side, nieces, nephews, etc.

SD has some cousins on her mom's side that she is very close to. In order to make SD feel like this is HER home as well, we put up pictures of SD with her cousins. We don't have pictures of BM displayed in the common rooms. That is for BM's home. I will say that. DH doesn't want pics displayed of his ex either in our home.

However, in her bedroom, SD does have pictures of her mom and dad in an album and just recently I came across a photo that she must have just received. It's her mom. And their pics in her room. I'm fine with that. They are for her.

I just feel like if your DH has a child and wants pictures displayed, and you know what that bond feels like as you also have children, why would you deny him that source of pride or affection? Or, put another way... you divorce and remarry and your new husband tells you that he doesn't want to see pics of your darling baby daughter because she's not "his". How would you feel then?

Was a family bulletin board. I'm not a big fan of family pics other than in more private areas of our home such as the family room etc. But of course SD was complaining again about the lack of pictures of her and she also wanted to hang some artwork of hers - she is not an artist by any stretch of the imagination! Anyway, I created a big family bulletin board where we would post funny pics, drawings, etc. SD wasn't enthusiatic about it but DH loved it and what could SD say. A small victory on mine but one that I still savor.
Glynne