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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 6:39am

Not sure what happened but my SD is becoming a little witch....

Well for the first time in a long time I am not looking forward to my SD9 coming over this weekend. She was such a nightmare over the holidays that I really cannot be bothered..and to top it off my husband is working on Saturday..so I get to spend even more quality time with her...(being sarcastic here)...ok....enough said..how do you deal with a child that seems to get joy out of pissing everyone off...everything you say she has an answer to...I tell her to make her bed...she says "I dont know how", I tell her to fold her clothes and put them away she says "I dont know how" I tell her to eat her breakfast she says "So what if it takes me 2 or 3 hours to eat my 2 toast, what's the big deal I'm going to eat them anyway"...OMG I am not looking forward to this at all...

hmmmmm Z

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Submitted by meneran on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:07am

Ignore her, as simple as that. If her bed isnt made up, and her clothes arent folded, she is the one that has to sleep there. Tough luck.

If your husband notices that the room is messy, tell him to whom to complain Biggrin

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:17am

I am going to try but then she comes to me..all sweet and nice and she wants to know if everything is ok, if I'm feeling well and then I feel bad because she is being so sweet that I just give in and then she is fine for a while then bammmm it starts all over again...

Hey maybe it's the age..god I hope it's the age...she is going to be 10 in a few months so I'm hoping this hateful stage will pass...

Z

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Submitted by meneran on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:21am

My ss is of exact age, and so far i havent noticed any improvements. It wont pass, she will only learn how to manipulate better.

When she is all nice and sweet to you, you can also be extra nice and sweet.. and nicely and sweetly point her to the unmade bed direction. Sweetly say -darling, can you please make that bed- in the sweetest voice possible Smile

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Submitted by Whateva on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:22am

Sorry no advice here. I personally don't watch or spend any alone time with his kids when he isn't present. I contribute my time and attention to them if I need to while they are with us, but in our case if he has to work late etc. then the kids are either picked up or dropped off late, they are totally not my responsibility. However I too have a strong dislike for the little girl in our mix as well....she has a smart mouth and a list of other annoyances and sometimes I am better off just to be cordial but leave the parenting and alone time to their bio parents. Good luck

Whateva

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:31am

Well thanks Whateva..I guess I should just be cordial and leave the parenting alone..it's seems it may have come to that as it doesn't matter what I say or do, behind her dad's back she is not the same kid..when her dad is around she is very careful not to speak to me that way...I guess you are right..just be cordial...thanks..Z

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Submitted by Whateva on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 8:42am

Zoie
I can relate, the 7 year old girl in my situation is the same. In front of her Dad she is so polite to me and is totally different, but on the rare occasion I have one on one interaction she disobey and have a rather smart mouth. I do correct her and will make her obey when she is in my home but i try not to deal with her to much. I often hope that my feelings for her will change but if not the most I hope for is mutual respect. It is also so hard to have "daddy's" see their daughters in a negative light which makes me a little nauseous but in the mean time I tolerate fake crying, whiney sneaky , manipulative behavior

Whateva

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:44am

Sd- I don't know how
you- well stay there until you figure it out. Meanwhile there will be no tv, no games, etc until it is done. (walk away)

You- eat your food
sd- so what if I takes me 2-3 hours to eat it?
You- because if you don't eat it now i'm throwing it away and your next meal isn't for another 5 hours. No snacks either. (walk away)

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 7:57am

All great ideas and I am going to try a few..I really like the tablet and her initialing that she refused to do her chores..

You know it makes me so mad...we have SD OEW and she has her own room, her own bathroom, her own dresser and closet full of clothes...never ever does she have to bring anything from her BM's house because we have everything for her..and she does not appreciate anything..she is lying and making up stories as to why she has done something wrong and this really bothers me as that means she is being manipulative and she is very young to actually sit down and think about a story in order to lie to us to get out of trouble and of course it's never her fault...never..

Oh and by the way she still peeing the bed at night..not everynight but pretty close... I had to go and get her pullups because she was making such a mess but her bladder is like a grownups now so when she goes it not a little so even with a pullup the bed still gets wet..she is too lazy to get up and go to the bathroom..can you freaking believe that..

I'm so not looking forward to this weekend..

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 8:09am

I am going to do that, she will be shocked and so will her dad..omg great idea...thanks SpunkiDoolittle..thanks very much..
Z

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Submitted by secondplace on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 8:03am

I have a 12.5 year old SD who still wets the bed almost every night. She has never been out of diapers at night. I honestly think she is so used to peeing in them at night, it's just a habit now.

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 8:08am

OMG 12.5 really I'm losing it now I cannot imagine at 12..my SD is just lazy, there is nothing wrong with her bladder, actually there is nothing wrong with her at all so there is no reason whatsoever for her to be wetting the bed. So now no drinking after 6:00 PM too bad, so sad but that's the way it's going to be.

I told SD after the way she behaved during the holidays that things were going to be very different this year and well look out because I mean business...

Z

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/13/2011 - 1:44pm

Really .. I would love to see her face when that alarm goes off at let's say 11:30 PM then again at 3:00 am... ha..WAKE UP WAKE UP..she would not be amused..but I would be .... hey enough's enough..get up and go to the bathroom..

thanks SpunkiDoolittle..love it...ha..

Z Smile