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Tori Spelling talks about Dean as a Guilty Dad and her role as SM
I am guilty of watching True Tori and being a fan of her's.
I watched this week's episode. Tori talks about being a SM and how she has to tread lightly and how she is always the evil SM no matter what she does. She also talked about how Dean is a guilty dad because of the divorce and how it ended. It was a little odd hearing her basically say the same stuff that we all say here. I guess Step Hell has no financial boundaries. Celeb or not. LOL.
How to make your life better as a SM
I think at the end of the day we are responsible for our own happiness.
When I was seeing a counselor for issues with the skids when DH and I first got enaged, the counselor would say to me "Its up to you, how much you can or want to deal with." And I never really understood what he was saying.
But I think about it. It really is in my hands. If things never ever change with the skids and DH, is this something I can deal with? Is this how I want to live my life?
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Brittany Maynard- Death with Diginity- Anyone care to discuss?
http://www.thebrittanyfund.org/
I'm okay with what she chose to do.
My friends son passed away last year from a brain tumor. Awful to see someone suffer as he did. Lost his eye sight, part of his hearing, in horrible pain.
With many cancers, tumors, illnesses that are terminal, I think its awful for the person to suffer and for their families to have to see them suffer.
What's on your Christmas Wish List?
DH and I went to lunch today 
He was asking me what I wanted for Christmas. There are a few things in the back of my head, that I have been wanting to look into, wanting for myself, either buying myself or if DH wants to buy me for Christmas.
So I was writing the list down and wrote down 3 things and was like HOLY SHIT my list looks like a spoiled teenage skid wrote it. LOL.
North Face jacket
Leopard Converse
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Did you dodge any bullets in terms of possible Step Hell before SO?
I think back to some of the guys that I "dated" or thought about dating before I got with DH.
#1- We shall call him J. Once his ex found out that we were talking, she basically told his mom that if she was still friends with me on FB, that J's son, was no longer allowed at her house. J and I had grown up together and I was very close to his family. Once BM found out about me, she started pursuing J and making threats about their kid, so I stopped talking with him. They ended up getting back together. LOL.
Lets switch it up- Why is your SO with YOU? And how good are you in bed????
Okay enough talk about the BM. Let's talk about you and how wonderful you are.
Why do you think your SO is with you?
What do you do that turns them on?
What do you do that excites them?
How do you know you are special to them?
What do you bring to the table that make your SO want you.
What are the compliments that your SO gives you?
What has your SO said about your sex life to you?
OT- Electronic help- iPad, Tablet, Notebook for a 9 year old
BS9 is asking for an iPad/Tablet, etc. I am kind of clueless when it comes to these things.
He wants something that he can play apps on. (like the ones that you can download on your phone). But he also wants to use it like a laptop. (general browsing, Microsoft office on it)
Any suggestions?
I am looking for something that isnt super expensive but that isnt cheap and going to be a waste of money. He goes to a STEM school and next year they will be required to have a laptop, tablet, etc.
Thanks!
Laughing to myself thinking about DH having to watch all these awful movies with SD
DH's "visitation" with YSD15 is usually taking her to the movies. She no longer visits in the house. (Long story, if you dont know it, ask me and I will go into details).
The "visits/parenting" usually starts with DH proclaiming "I need to take my daughter to a movie." Which I find quite funny since he "needs" to do it as opposed to wanting to do it. I feel that DH is an "obligated dad". He does everything out of obligation.
Its me or them- Is this wrong?
Let me start off by saying, I have not had to have this conversation with DH and have not had to do this. But because of the situation and the possibility, this may come up. And NOT saying I would say THEM or ME.
DH and skids (and BM) live in one state. State A
DH's family and BM's family live in another state. State B
BM/skids will go to State A a couple of times a year. Skids get to see BM's family but does not see DH's family during this time (understandable)
DH does not get to make it home to State B very often.
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How much do you bitch/complian/whine/moan/groan/"talk" to SO about the skids?
Do you spend a lot of time communicating with your SO about the skids?
No offense, but sometimes I read on ths site and I am thinking- OMG is all you ever do is bitch about the skid to your SO? I'm not talking about just communicating issues that need communicated but every single move that a skid makes is bitched at to the parent.
I know for me I used to do this to DH. Every single thing (negative) that I found out about the skid, I HAD to relay to DH. I had to make sure he knew how awful his kid was. I became a tattletale.