Bet That Hurt
So, DH is quite angry at me. Passively, but still I know Im going to have pay for this later. SS gets to talk to me however he wants and throw stuff in my house and theres no punishment for it. Fine, DH you get to take him wherever you go because Im not going to deal with it. Dont act like Im punishing you. Everytime you leave him here it is a freaking punishment for me. Sorry you cant go to your guys house without him, but since you cant teach him to respect and I expect respect somethings going to have to give. Learn how to be flipping parent.
Count yourself freaking lucky Im keep watching him after school, I dont have to.
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Much nicer than this but
Much nicer than this but yes.... and he took the kid. But he slammed tje door so i know hes mad. Oh well
Yep hes mad. Apparently Im
Yep hes mad. Apparently Im shunning the kid and giving up on him because Im making Daddy dearest take him with him and not checking the kids homework. And not letting the kids play unsupervised is me telling daddy that the kid is crazy. Nope, not even close daddy dearest. However, how can you tell me in one sentence that you know he has issues and then in the next one tell me Im overreacting. No, overreacting would be packing yalls stuff and telling you when you send the kid back to his birthmom you can come home. Watching to make sure mr manson doesnt hurt my kids is not overreacting. Making you take him with you when you leave (knowing good and damn well ypu let him play violent video games even after you said you wouldnt ) isnt over reacting. Dont try the guilt trip on me daddy dearest. I forgot to buy my rose colored glasses at the pharmacy, and you will be making that trip all by yourself. Use my suitcases, they are totally appropriate for the flight into reality.
Why yes dtzy, he does do
Why yes dtzy, he does do that, as well as squeal tires on hjs say out. Whayever
I live in an all male
I live in an all male household as well.... and the macho thing is quite amusing lol. Especially when they puff those chests out all domineering lmao. My five year son is super skinny and he just started doing this. Cracks me up everytime. I cant even stay mad at him for it right now.
Excellent! WTG on politely
Excellent! WTG on politely 'flipping' the table lol!!!!
This isnt just a power thing
This isnt just a power thing or a respect thing. Right now the issue on the table is respect, but its mostly a safety thing. This kid has real issues. Hes drawing and writing really insane stuff. He drew these pictures proclaiming himself god and the villager were told that it was child raping time. He drew a smiling man standing over a box of kids heads (he labeled the box). He draws beastiality. He wrote a 4 page erotica story about a brother, sister, and mother participating in group sex. He wrote a story about a man tying up a woman and raping her calling her a whore. So yes, Im using respect as the issue to get him out of the house, but to be honest Im getting scared to be here with him and my two little boys. I dont know what hes capable of and daddy dearest acts like im the bad guy for seeing his kid as "crazy". Who wouldnt see that shit as crazy? Im sorry thats the way it is but its true. And Im basically a doormat in most aspects of my life because i like to make other people happy I know this about myself and Im totally ok with it. BUT IM NOT GOING TO LET THIS NOT GOING TO HURT ME OR MY BABIES!
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He sstarting to, but not
He sstarting to, but not fufledged. Yea... darling daddy doesnt think its a big deal so no.one else is supposed to either. So nope Im not going to be alone with this kid except directly after school while waiting for dh to get home from work. His anger mgmt is already crazy, he looses it for no reason and has absolutely no boundaries with me. He gets in my face, most recently he threw his backpack across the kitchen. A month ago we were all in tne house and he was in the room with my five year old and he got.mad at him, picked him up and shook him, darling daddy said ... it wasnt that hard. DO WHAT? Now i love my husband, I love him alot. But this kid is not going to hurt my babies... I dont care if darling daddy thinks I think the kid is crazy. I DO THINK THE KID IS CRAZY! So nope, no more.playing alone. Nope nope nope. No more me being alone with him. Nope nope. If the kid was in therapy maybe, probably notl but maybe. But nope, not til then.
Well Im certainly happy to
Well Im certainly happy to know that Im not freaking out for no reason bc darling daddy was sure making me feel that way during the big talk tonight. He said that Im shouldnt see his kid as crazy, or treat him like he has issues. Yea like thats possible. I posted about some of.it before under a different name. I got paranoid and deleted the account. I did it on one of the forums though. Tonight i kept asking darling daddy if he wouldn let his kid play with another kid with the same issues unsupervised and all he would say is "i dunno". Just like an 11 year old when they dont want to tell the truth. So I know he knows whats up, hes just dont want to admit it to himself. And if there was ever a good reason to disengage Im pretty sure this it. Im certainly not taking responsiblity for insanity. Darling daddy can sleep on the couch, while me and my babies sleep in the room together. Safe.
I guess thats what darling
I guess thats what darling daddy wants, but not me. I didnt sign up for this shit. Dtzy I took the liberty and deleted one of your comments because I assumed you wouldnt want other people to think your skid is like mine. Im seriously praying his BM kidnaps him this summer. It would make everything so much easier, she literally lives in the wild, I mean they have a house (now) but the are hours and hours away from civilization and she homeschools him. So if she kidnapped him he wouldnt be able to hurt anybody, most especially not my babies or me. She lives two countries, yes you read that right countries away. And if darling daddy violates the CO then I wouldnt put it past her. All he has to do is fly him out there unaccompanied and maybe we will never see him again.
The BM is truely insane, so
The BM is truely insane, so the kid was gonna have issues. And he mighta had chance if he had been exposed to any normalcy growing up, but she basically withheld custody for six years, only giving him to his daddy every once in awhile. She homeschooled him with no extra curriculars to socialize him. They moved nine times in six years, he witnessed one of his houses burn to the ground with all their things in it, they were homeless for nine months. Her family is crazy too like pedophelia incest crazy. It was all over the news a year ago when a couple of them got caught. Her new husband beats her. I mean the kid never really stood a chance, and then we get FT custody of him so hes getting used to living with us and my bs, me and darling daddy get married and have a baby. So he has literally never had a normal until now. But I think its way to late for this kid. Even if you take away the PAS and him seeing his stepdad beat his mom, its still way to late to fix this kid.
I have actually never thought
I have actually never thought about that marie, but even if i had daddy dearest would never allow it. Togs, Im happy to hear there is an child pychologist on the board. Do you have any advice on what I could say to daddy dearest to.motivate him into doing this without him taking it as a personal attack, CPS is a good idea, but I honestly dont want there jnvolvement in private family matters if i can help it. BM has called them a couple different times on us, and its never fun to deal with them. They have never found anything because we dont beat or neglect our kids, but its stressful dealing with them and never knowing how they are judging us. I know it sounds stupid that i dont want to offend daddy dearest, but I know it has to be hard to realize the severity of the your kids mental problems. I dont want to do it to harshly and risk him tninking that Im just picking on his.kid or whatever. I mean, its a pretty big step to at least admit the kid has some issues. I want to expand on that acheivement and strike now since hes admitting it. But its risky territory, no one wants to heat their kid is crazy. I wouldnt like it very much if someone said it to me, but my kid arent drawing that shit.
I dont think most of you guys
I dont think most of you guys would attack anybody, yes its to hear that, this situation could be construed this way, but I most certainly wouldnt believe its an attack. I really think you are offering your opinion, and I honestly see your point. He is neglecting him. And hes neglecting the other two on the chance that the kid does lose his ever loving mind and hurt one of us. Please dint be afraid to voice hard truths. This is the internet, you cant offend me, I dont know you lol. Maybe thats excatly what I need to say to darling daddy. If he thinks its an attack than he can eff off. Im really struggling with this, all humor aside, and I can kinda feel like I have stepped on enough toes over this because he doesnt want to admit the kid needs help much let get him the help. I mean he will admit it after hes been mad at me and is just saying what I want to hear, but after that its not talked about again. And part of that is probably my fault to because I dont want to start any more fights than I have to. He can get so mad at me for mentioning anything to do with the kid. Im not trying to start arguements and sometimes itll turn into one even I didnt want to fight at all. So part of it is my fault too, and then I thought this whole disengagement would work, and instead it turned into guilt trip 101. But I really dont feel comfortable taking responsiblity for this kids sanity. I dont feel comfortable making appointments that darling daddy wont take him to. I dont feel comfortable taking him into the doctors office and them trying to make me responsible for the relaying of information. Not to menrion that I would have to take the two little ones, and kids in waiting room is a nightmare. But I cant make him step up either. Its such a mess.
I really appreciate all you guys input. I really do. I hope togs comes back soon or someone has an idea of how I can talk to darling daddy about all this without him being offended or giving me a guilt trip. For real, any idea would be great. Please.