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"dont you love him?"

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Tue, 07/05/2011 - 1:47pm

After reading these blogs for I dont know how long...it finally happened. My H asked me, "dont you love him?" about my SS4. I just stayed quiet while he continued to say 'cant you love him the same way you do our BD?'
Thankfully Ive had steptalk to guide me, instead of responding- I stayed quiet while he talked struggling not to crack up laughing at the typical fatherly gut-check response to bring up love.

And why can't I yell??

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Wed, 04/06/2011 - 9:01pm

I dont think Im the only one but me and my fiancee have gotten into some heated battles over me disciplining his SS4.
I have never raised a hand to him, tho I have swatted our BD1's hand a couple times without any incident from him. In fact my fiancee has congradulated me before on "well executed" hits on our BD1.

Drop offs

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 6:09pm

BM always drops off to me on Thursday nights. It's been this way since my fiancee has been working. So, why does she insist on never contacting me when shes gonna come.
She'll call my fiancee while hes at work or he'll have to call her to ask when she'll be going. Then he tells me. Usually within 2 hours she'll text me saying she's about to leave or has left. Then she shows up 2 hours later. This was so bad, I didnt plan anything where Id have to leave the house because I never knew when she would actually show up.

BM teaching SS concept of SM...Please help!

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Thu, 02/24/2011 - 4:31pm

So, apparently BM has started trying to explain to SS4 that I am his SM.
I really dont like this. She has what I feel to be crazy ways of explaining things, shes finally stopped telling him that god is a superhero. (Not like a superhero, but that god was a superhero-same as spiderman). I understand the idea of watering things down for children to understand, but there's certain things I feel shouldve be because it'll just confuse him later on.
I really don't want my role to be reduced to "the woman your daddy married" or "a fake mom" or whatever she decides i should be.

...uh sure we'll take him...

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 12:17am

Right when my fiancee would be getting out of work he gives me a call asking if we could handle getting his son tonight. My fiancee gets out of work at 7 btw.
So, I call our daughters babysitter and ask if itd be ok if her older brother can join her on Thursday as Im in class all day. She says no problem. Then he calls his brother who is staying with both kids now tomorrow while I have an interview.

Delayed dropoff and effects of parenting on skid

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 4:40pm

I used to get really up in arms when I felt like my fiancees BM was getting over on him by shortening his parental rights. Esp in regard to visitation. After so many instances of refusal or replanning to suit her own needs, I've given up being emotionally attached to it. I just hope my fiancee realizes what hes giving up sooner or later.

Our rules became my unreasonable issue...

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 11:01pm

Me and my fiancee somewhat recently moved to a new apartment. The place is easily twice the size of our old place. Which is great! When we moved, we had a small discussion about not allowing BM in. I felt very strongly about this, as I am not on friendly terms with BM. In fact, she's asked my fiancee to go out with her on a friday night to "hang out" and asked him to have a small dinner with her and son for son's 4th birthday.

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