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wildlife's picture

Submitted by wildlife on Wed, 10/31/2007 - 3:12pm

Hello Ladies,

I joined this site about a week ago and am only now figuring out that most people post on their blogs and offer advice and support on other people's blogs. What a great idea.

So, I thought I'd start my own little blog and introduce myself.

I live in Massachusetts and I am married to a wonderful man who is the father of a 15 year old girl. I have two beautiful daughters of my own from a previous marriage who are 23 and 15. I have been married to my DH for 10 years now and have seen a lot of the usual ups and downs of steplife. My BM is a piece of work and although I don't think she's ever been diagnosed, I believe she has some mental illness issues. There have been multiple marriages, binge drinking, suicide attempts and manic episodes.

Recently our BM has asked to relinguish custody to us so that she can be free to move to NC in order to pursue a romantic relationship there. DH and I have met with a lawyer and are trying our best to get things settled before she goes. December 14 is the supposed date of departure. She has threatened this kind of thing before and backed out at the last minute. So we shall see.

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kathleen's picture

Submitted by kathleen on Wed, 10/31/2007 - 3:19pm

I totally agree. As much as we might like to work things out between ourselves, it seems to always go curvy. The courts will enforce any decision and if you don't want more drama, I think Cruella has a good point.

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Submitted by Colorado Girl on Wed, 10/31/2007 - 5:01pm

I wish BM would move away! It would be a dream come true for me. She tried to move away once to "get as far as away from DH as possible". Had to take her to court so she couldn't take the girls with her. Then she moved back(she would've lost her CS and main source of income) and asked if DH would take her back. So I know all about mental illness too.....the bi-polar swing is a constant for me. Anyways, a big warm welcome to you and I agree with the previous posts. Make sure there are no verbal agreements, only court orders because it they never work out.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

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Submitted by Nymh on Wed, 10/31/2007 - 7:32pm

What a weight that would be lifted from our shoulders! Oh well.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by Sita Tara on Thu, 11/01/2007 - 10:33am

That SD's BM would move away. Only I have a friend who's crazy ExH moved away. He never followed through on visitation while living in the same area, but as soon as he remarried one of the many women he had lived with in the few years they were divorced, he went back to court to get increased visitation. Now my friend has to pay to fly her 10 year old ALONE or pay for a chaperon. Her ex doesn't have a good job anymore so he doesn't pay his child support, but she has to pay for the plane ticket- EVERY MONTH. It's a crazy world. Her attorney sucked and she's paid the price.

So...I would agree with comments above and get to an attorney so this can be as close to wrapped up as possible before she leaves. When you are dealing with two different states things become totally complicated.
Peace, love, and red wine