SD's mother signed the papers yesterday giving us full physical custody. She moves away today.

I've been dealing with her for 10 years. She's been hard. DH and I are both a little in shock.

She will be paying us cs, she pays half of all medical and half of college and she pays for all of SD's visitation travel, all of it.

Like I said, we are a little in shock.

SD moved in over thanksgiving weekend and started school yesterday. She and my DD worked on homework together last night and everyone seems so happy. I don't think SD has had much of a home life for a long, long time. DH is beside himself with joy. He woke her up for school this morning and came back to our bedroom and told me how grateful he was to have this chance to be here for her.

I still feel a little over-welmed but we seem to be doing fine so far. Wish us luck.

I knew this would happen. DH is supposed to meet with BM and her lawyer this afternoon to try and work out arrangements for her to sign over custody. She just called DH to say "Oh, BTW, I'm not paying CS." DH told her of course she would pay CS. She can't just waltz out of here like she never had a child. Why do women think that it is necessary for a father to pay but when it comes to them, the rules have changed. She actually told him that he had to pay all these years because SD was "HIS CHILD". Well, duh, isn't she YOUR CHILD TOO????

Our lawyer advised us to enroll SD in our HS asap, even before final custody papers have been drawn up. BM is dragging her feet on the papers and we want to have SD in our school district by thanksgiving. I just called the school and they said they won't admit her until all papers have been signed. I explained that SD would be living with us before the papers were official and she would need to be going to school. I was told that DH needs to contact the superindentant and explain the situation. I was also told that since I was "just the SM" it should be DH that called.