My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years now. About a month ago i happened to look for something in his bag which he asked me for and for some reason i took his identity book out. In the cover of the book, was a picture of his ex wife which did not look like an old pic at all. I only recently asked him about it and his first reaction was..it's been in there for the past few years now ....but you have pictures of your ex in your photo box (so does he of his lady girlfriends and school/youth flirts). I told him that we all have a history and that having photos of your past is part of YOUR history and memories and when you old one day, you can sit together and laugh about the good old days and in fact, I burnt up all the photos which I had of Mr ex and there were about 1 or 2 which i kept because that is the only memory I would have of the place where the picture was taken (USA) but if it bothers him, I could put a sticker over Mr ex's face, he did not reply. I further said that carrying a photo of your ex in your wallet or identity book is something else. I know he would have made a big scene if it were me. After 2 and a half years of living together in which time he proposed to marry me then cancelled because of his own reasons which is still unknown to me besides him feeling confused and pressured at the time (his words). I love him and is committed in our relationship and I would consider his feelings before even considering my own. Was I wrong in approaching him about it the way I did? He says he loves me and wants to marry me, but cannot commit to a time-frame.He also refers to me as his wife sometimes?