I just found this place and I believe this is a God send. Please Don't get me wrong I love my SS's but they are driving me crazy!!! I know some of it is they are at the wonderful age of 12 and 14, but.... AAARRRGGGGGG!!!!!! I want them to go and live with their mother and let her deal with some of the mess she has created!! the oldest boy has been living with her for almost a year now, and I want the other to go too. I start to feel ill on tuesday the week he comes to stay for the weekend and the weekend that they art both gone I feel free as a bird and like nothing will get me down except for Sunday night! They don't listen to me they don't respect me or their father they start fights with each other and pick on their younger step/sisters/brother/and brother. they are so jelous, because they don't get that kind of love from their own mother so they take it out on me and my bio children! The boys mother is a narrow minded,selfish woman,who is jeleous because her boys love me and their Father and their brothers/sisters, I mean my husband has had full custody of the boys since they were babies in diapers, because she didn't want them, and now she feels jeleous and guilty, and tells them that they don't have to listen to me I am not their mother, she bad mouths me and my children and their father to them, and she has made life here soo difficult, that I am just soo tired of fighting that I feel lost and angry!! Just 2 months after the oldest boy moved in with his mother, my husband said" I feel quilty saying this, but this house is so much more peaceful" I felt like say ing "DUH!!" but I have never lived with this much conflict in my whole life, and I come frome a family of 9 very different people. I have met the boys mother and have always been nice to her, but she loves to fight and her boys love it to they thrive on creating conflict, by telling lies, tattle taleing, and starting piontles fights and just doing things purposefully to get on people's nerves. It is soo bad now that my step sons are now longer invited to family sleep overs because aunts and Uncles cannot tolerate their bad,disrespectful behavior. I just feel like I cannot talk to their Father about how I feel for fear that he will take it the wrong way, He is a very loving and wonderful man and we are madly in love, and I don't want to hurt him and if I bring up the subject he feels like I am attacking his boys, that's not the case at all. The soon to be 12 year old boy may soon be going to live with his mother for awhile,( I HOPE) this will give us a chance to breathe and my husband to see what life is like without all the conflict. And when the Boys move back home again (which I also want ) I will be with eyes that have seen their mother for who she really is, I think things will be a bit better and we will be able to build from there.

But Am I the only one who feels like screaming when their step children (whom I love)are around!!!!!?????