UGH!

I am So OVER SKids who think they are entitled to doing NOTHING, able to disrespect ALL parents and then do that "I hate you, get out of my life, but drive me to the mall first"

This is the most recent one, we've bought 8 acres of beautiful isolated land and will be moving into the old farmhouse there at Xmas time...there is NO public transport and SS16 hasn't got off his bum to get a job, a license or a car....and with the magical date looming - Nov 18 (his final day of school) - we are doing that Big Yellow Taxi ("Don't it always seem to go...you don't know what you got til it's gone")...he is losing EVERY LUXURY he has been given - time to earn it yourself slugboy! No bus card being paid for, no extra snacks just for him, no gel, aftershave, bodyspray that he goes through 1 can a week, no monsy for lunches, no paying for his TaeKwonDo training...and NO PAYING FOR A PRIVATE SCHOOL (which he is FAILING). No credit for your phone? Sorry, NO LOANS... No, Maybe he'll get off the internet, when there is no free wifi, huh? (I think that will be the biggest shock of all).

Better yet - we are planning to buy a crappy caravan, with a shower and toilet and set it WAY back on that land, and let Mr Independant fend for himself, since he thinks he could be a better parent than us(we are told this regularly)!

The whinging and demands have already started:
"You better drive me places, since there's no transport" (yea- NO).

"It's not fair, I've got no way to get around" (should have thought of that a YEAR AGO when you could have started driving lessons, but Facebook was more important, and besides, your dad is a "lame driving instructor").

"If I'm put into a caravan, then you'll have no control over me - and I'll do what I like " (sure thing, kiddo, GO FOR IT, but if the father of your underage girlfriend finds out, then I'm not saving your bum...Oh and BTW, he WILL find out, because the land WILL have surveillence cameras and I WILL call the father should the girl sneak over to play house).

"I will be able to stay up all night and use all the power I want" (sure...but in a CARAVAN, you will be TETHERED to one of our powerpoints by a very long extension cord, that may just get pulled out at a certian time).

BM has already had her say on this move. Mainly that it's "cruel". Funny, this bleating stopped when I said "He may have to come back to you, if that's a real problem".

At times, I feel sorry for SS16, I really do feel that he has dug himself into a hole, but any offers made by me to help him undig, and become a better person are met with sneers and cruel taunts about how "no teenagers really listen to you" (BTW I am a child and adolescent psychologist, working in community mental health - hard core cases). It bugs me, but I let it go over my head now, I have pretty much disengaged, and I just exist in this house now - I just ignore him and answer when I have to.

He also has a problem with his father's profession (lawyer) - and regularly calls his father stupid and lame, and makes statements that he doesn't know anything (sure, but we know enough to see what you do on FB, and what you say.....us technologically challenged ones...)

Enough ranting - I am tired and have important things to deal with, clients who need and appreciate the support i give them, when they DO have crappy neglectful and cruel parents. Us? We make him switch of electronics at 9pm, and everything stays in the family room - apparently we are TOTALLY OLD FASHIONED.
Last time I looked, my name was on the house deed, not YOURS matey.

UGH!