Shotgun Wedding
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BM calls at 9 a.m. Ranting she needs the divorce papers. DH says- I have to find them - where are yours? She lost them in one of her 14 moves away from baby daddy. (If he's even the baby daddy who knows!) so she hangs up...1 hour later- it's her again! She needs them immediately! Wtf? She goes on to explain that she and baby daddy are getting married next Friday and she needs to get her marriage license ASAP! Umm...you JUST moved back in with him for the 5th time two months ago- she's also cheated on him atleast twice? Seriously? Is she preggers with baby no. 4 that she's in such a big hurry? Really?
So while MY "not-so-DH" is outside handing over the papers - FMIL aka wildabeast aka satan comes out and is drooling "awe look at them talking! Did she stop down so he could see the girls? Awee how nice!" I'm like- when he comes in he can tell you what she's doing...- ignoring that she's TRYING to upset me...so he comes in and her face goes white as her hopes and dreams are now crushed that her EX DIL of 7 years will no longer share her last name and fix things with her son- she asks if he has a copy of the papers- he says no but ill get them back next week- she looks right at ME and says "that's alright- you won't be using them anyway!!" I said why not? She says no one here will be getting married- anyone who gets married is so f***ing dumb.- I do wish her the best of luck though- for the girls..."
FMIL is so out of line. I'm glad she can tell us we aren't getting married- lol. I'm not sure who I loathe more...her or BM. Maybe equal because they are the same white trash...grrrr
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Firstly your FDH SHOULD have
Firstly your FDH SHOULD have taken copies of those papers (or given copies to BM) because frankly I would NEVER trust the ex when it comes to giving something back that you want back and may need. Nice little f*ck you if she didn't.
Secondly, WHY was your FMIL even in your home when she treats you like this and what did FDH say in response to her vile digs? :jawdrop:
^^^^THIS^^^^ BM threw a fit
^^^^THIS^^^^
BM threw a fit and wanted SSs birth certificate and SS card. Who knows what she needed it for. DH told her he didn't have it so if he wanted it she had to go to vital records for the BC and Social Security for the card. She was pissed she knows DH keeps all paperwork but there was no way she could make him give it up.
Yikes. MIL sounds like a real
Yikes. MIL sounds like a real gem. Your BM is precious. You really won the BM/MIL lottery, huh? :sick:
Your DH sounds like a nice guy with patience and restraint.
My MIL is a nice lady, and cannot stand BM. I can relate to MIL issues, though. Mine is a problem where the (adult) kids are concerned, bc she is waiting for them to "find Jesus" and "wake up and be nice." She almost caused me to run, bc she was encouraging DH (then boyfriend at the time) to give them what they wanted, when they wanted. He was completely broke, stressed to the max, and they were treating him horribly. Nothing was, or will ever be good enough for them. MIL is not as bad now, but I hate that she keeps up this false hope. I do not see the skids changing, ever. They are horrible.
So, she lost her divorce
So, she lost her divorce papers and he gave her his? I'm just gonna stop right there.
Shit like this, among other
Shit like this, among other things, is why my MIL isn't welcome in my house. Not like she'd ever come by anyway; we don't have ss.
You don't need divorce papers
You don't need divorce papers to get remarried in any state I've been in...
WTF?
And your DH went scampering off to give her HIS copy?
WTF?
And clearly... your MIL just LOVES you, huh? Whackadoodles all around ya!
My crazy exh did this to me.
My crazy exh did this to me. He lives in Ohio. Called me on a Thursday, needed the papers for Monday. His girlfriend was about to give birth and insisted on being married first!! Talk about last minute, the baby was born two days after they got married.
Of course I never got the papers back but me and DH are married to I don't need them anyway. He is still a moron.
And I have a crazy MIL that doesn't like to mind her own business either!!
1. DH is an idiot. He truly
1. DH is an idiot. He truly believes she's going to give them back. I told him how ridiculous this was- mentioned she can get her own, their papers would be through another county though- not ours. I would have made copies and given her a photo copy not the originals but DH has this TERRIBLE "I'm not worried about it attitude"
2. He didn't "scamper"lol. I actually knew where they were and I said please just give them to her so she stops calling- we are both down with the flu!
3. We live with FMIL...go back and read old blogs- she has us trapped financially here.
It's a mess lol. I can't wait to see if he gets the papers back!
You LIVE with MIL?!? No. Oh,
You LIVE with MIL?!?
No. Oh, no. Not healthy. She's nuts. Even if you have to live in a crappy studio, move out. She's toxic.
How can you be trapped? You
How can you be trapped? You aren't married. You don't have to live in her home.
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Thanks Disney Fan for
Thanks Disney Fan for bringing that up - no we are NOT married. And I have realized that I am NOT going to marry this guy. I am trapped only because fsd8 and I have a very close bond and I like to be here for her. Now, I do LOVE not so Dh - but things have been going downhill...and becoming rougher. Keep in mind I have been brainwashed - and just as affected by his mother's PAS as much as he has - she is a master manipulator and I have actually HAD to admit that all of this has happened to me - I was in sort of an intervention with my family? I didn't realize that I was a victim - I allowed myself to sink - I've lost all sense of self - if you read my past posts you'll understand.
I always used to say when we had our own place - she wouldn't be welcome - I wouldn't want tension or criticism in my home - she can keep it in hers.
Now - what I haven't mentioned - and I haven't even discussed this with not-so-DH yet - my brother is moving out of my parents house - and since my parents recent divorce is in progress my dad actually needs more help on our ranch so I am moving back in with him - as soon as my brother is gone (we don't have the best relationship!).
My dad has actually asked about my bringing him with me - I think it's best for him to stay behind and see what happens when I am not around - he can stay if he wants but I cannot be around all of this tension and negativity anymore.
Example of how is mommy has kept us from leaving a few times - as soon as she found out we had an apartment lined up - she QUIT paying bills...all utlities were shut off - never told us so we could help - and SOLD the car to get things turned back on - he would not leave because his parents had no vehicle...it's like a sick episode of Dr. Phil...
Where we are from - I copied
Where we are from - I copied and pasted this from our courthouse website -
You will need to show a certified copy of the final divorce decree, with court raised seal, of your divorce or annulment decree or know the date of death of a deceased spouse.
If you have resumed your maiden name, related documents must be shown. Foreign documents must be translated into English.
- HERE you DO need the papers...I am glad I looked this up! Alteast I KNOW that is definitely what she is using them for! lol! I raised my eyebrow up above there when I saw other states don't require the papers!
Let's hope she doesn't try to change the kids last names next! WON'T be happening!