I already blogged tonight but I have a second situation here (my life is like a damn soap opera right now) -

My not so Dh's brother - we will call him Fred.

Fred met a girl - 3 years older than him - she is 36. She has been married before and has a 14 year old son. She is a great person. She has raised her son by herself - owns her own beautiful home, and we really hit it off and have become great friends in a short period of time. Now - Fred and this girl dated for about 4 months when she became pregnant. They were getting along well -she moved he and his two hellians into her home - even gave them their own bedroom before starting a nursery. The kids are disrespectful and destroy everything. She and Fred fight about this - he does not discipline them and his idea of parenting is giving them their fully charged DS on the weekend. They literally play it all hours. Or sit and watch TV. That's it. When SHE tried to discipline these kids - Fred lashed out at her. After the baby was born approximately 7 weeks ago - things got worse. He told her his kids come first...even to the baby - and she is NOT allowed to discipline them at all. okay...so he left! HE LEFT HER. She is going through post partum. She is now back to work - and getting her 14 year old back and forth from practice. Everything - ALONE. He even bought her a ring - played the game - I will never leave you blah blah. She's SO heartbroken and a mess. I talk to her almost everyday and I'm not going to stop. Fred and FMIL are threatening to take "that" baby...FMIL has deemed HER as evil - and is saying this is all her fault as she had an issue with Freds kids...she did NOT have an issue with THEM - she has an issue with their behavior. Who wouldn't? So - They are going through a really bad breakup - Fred has NOT shown up to get the baby when he was supposed to - because he goes out and sleeps all day - I've seen it as he is now living here. When his kids are here - FMIL gives up her bed and Fred and his boys sleep in it. It's disgusting. Think of one of those LMN movies with the psycho MOM who has momma's boy - gross. Well - last week I guess there was a text fight between Fred and the girl he just up and walked out on who never wanted him to leave - just wanted him to talk. Well - Fred decided he would file harrassment charges. Her attorney advised her not to talk to him at all - and not to allow him to take the baby until court. He is STILL sending her text messages to see how the baby is - she is not answering - so it's making him look like the devil but she was advised NOT to contact or answer him. This seems logical to me. He is going to try to get 50/50 if not full custody of this baby? What are the odds a judge is going to allow this to happen when he has no house, no bed, or anything. And I've already explained his parenting style...I am hoping she puts up the fight of her life and he gets to see the baby once a week MAYBE. He makes me sick and I can't even look at him! It makes me even sicker that his mother is behind half of this mess....there's a reason why all 3 of her boys are divorced!