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ungrateful skid...is this just normal behaviour or does it just make me more mad becuase he's not "mine"

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Submitted by txcajunmom on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 1:16pm

so last weekend was dh's weekend and we took all the kids, the 2 skids and our 2 babies to the mardi gras. we ate lunch before we got there, listened to some music, everyone got a snack and something to drink while we were there, watched a parade, went to a petting zoo, and let the kids ride rides. dh got laid off a couple of weeks ago and times are really hard to say the least and i'm struggling to make ends meet but we wanted to take the kids to do something fun. the whole thing costs about 100 dollars and we really didnt have it but we'll sacrifice a few things and it'll work out. anywho, we were there for 5 hours. we get in the truck to go home and i ask if everyone had fun, all reply yes except ss6. :jawdrop:

dh asked him again if he had fun he replies, "no i didnt have fun at all". with and attitude. if only his ungrateful butt would have been my child for 5 minutes...lol j/k but i was pissed! dh replies, "well you wont come with us again anywhere like that" ss, no reply. you know why becuase he knows daddy is lying and he will bring his ungrateful behind to the next whatever...but not me. if dh is not working and i'm footing the bill? he can stay home with him, i'll take my babies and ss10 if he wants to go but not that little boy. i know he's only 6 but it ticks me off. idk if i get extra mad becuase he's not my child. if my baby would have said that to me, would i be as angry?

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Submitted by stpmom2b on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 3:58pm

I struggle with this as well. My skids are 6 and everyone's life sort of revolves around them. BM doesn't work, so they get full attention all the time. When they come here, they expect constant entertainment. DH's favorite saying when they are here is "I'm not a 3 ring circus". I don't have any bios yet , so I'm not sure how much gratitude is to be expected from kids so young. They don't really understand the value of money and how hard DH and I have to work to do the things we do with them. They don't understand that we pay BM 3,000 dollars a month and that's why mommy can play with them all day and buy them lots of toys.

I find that they say things to get a reaction often or for attention. Do you think that's what ss was doing? I tend to just ignore stuff like that and focus on the good behavior of my other skid or something else entirely. We have to constantly remind them to say thank you and they are constantly doing fun things and getting new things, so I think a lot of their lack of appreciation and gratitude is DH and BM's fault. Kids just expect a constant barrage of entertainment: tv, videos, computers, video games....we can't even go for a 20 minute car ride without the nintendo ds or a movie playing!

I love them, but I do find myself getting annoyed easily if they are ungrateful or say something hurtful. I try not to show it, but it's so hard because that natural bond isn't there.