To start, I have been around SD14 for about 2 1/2 years no problems in the beginning. Lately things have gotten bad, really bad. DH works graveyards so I am the "parent" while he is at work, most of the time as soon as he drives away she turns into a total defiant smart mouth little girl. She takes off down the block I have to go get her, she doesn't get to bed when she is supposed to doesn't do her chores but the worst part is that she argues EVERYTHING, has an excuse for everything, calls me a B**ch to my face and many other names.

So SD and I have gotten along pretty good for the past two years. BM is constantly causing drama and even tried to break DH and I up awhile back. Well now BM is making SD14 believe that I have no say so in MY house with SD.BM has even helped SD draft a terrible email to me bashing me and pretty much making me feel like crap, telling me that just because I am with her dad doesn't mean she accepts me and that I have no right to "boss" her around, telling me not to confuse her with my own kids cause I'm not her mother.

I don't understand why everything becomes an argument. SD14 thinks she is always always always right. She can b told something many times but still argues the solid facts of whatever,next thing she will try to convince me the sky isn't blue. What has helped any of you get through a kids head when they not only try to convince you something other but have already convinced themselves something other than what was said or done???