Who else has saved the day from the irresponsible ex?
DH and I picked up SS14 and SS13 at BMs. SS14 seemed to be in a bad mood (usually he is after a weekend with her) and DH asked him what was wrong.....SS14 (got emotional like he always does.)
Background......BM moved out of a rent free house that her mother owns to paying rent for the first time in 3 years. According to the kids, she wasn't supposed to be having any pets. BM had 2 dogs and got rid of 1 but keep the older pet the boys had had since they were a lot younger.
We are going thru a custody battle (which she started) and at Christmas she bought a puppy as a family pet at her house. I saw it as an attempt to sway the kids to her favor. BM doesn't want to take care of kids and I couldn't image her paying any attention to a dog.
Well, SS14 was upset because he has been trying to find a home for the puppy. The landlord found out and the dogs have to go. Hmm...BM seems to have a habit of not following rules.....she breaks them consistantly.
DH and I agreed to take the dog. We also asked if she wanted the dog back if she moved into a place that would allow dogs....SS14 didn't answer. I take that as a know. BM had no problem bringing the dog after SS14 talked to her.........she practically broke the sound barring driving to our house.
DH is going to bring this up to his attorney........BM got a dog that she knew she couldn't have one in the first place and when she got caught had to upset the kids because of her lack of responsiblity.
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Wow, Sm. Glad those kids have you....
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
That's horrible. Wow. Those poor kids-how can anyone do that to their own children?
I know BM is totally irresponsible-but so is H, and SD14 gets left hanging out to dry because of it. Shortly after we married (1st of May), I saw SD14's report card. Horrible. She was failing everything. Of course, by then it was too late in the school year to do much about it, but I did. I called the school, talked to the principal at lenght, arranged extra study time for her; spent alot of time talking to SD14 to try to get her to care...hard for a kid to do when the parents don't.
So she started this year with more help, agreed upon by myself and the principal. Then BM finally took the hint and actually called the school herself.
But, my question-why does H think he can just "excuse" himself for letting it go as long as it did? The school system puts the kids grades, attendence, etc. online. H has a laptop. So where's his responsibility in this???? Evidently he thinks he has none.
That was very kind of you to
That was very kind of you to let them keep the pet, seeing the loss of their dog on top of the drama from her would've made a bad situation worse. Kudos to you for again saving their spirits. Im new to this site and Im not familiar with your past, but it sounds like they're much safer in your home then with her. Hopefully all of your struggles pay off in the end, I know I question that alot with my own situation. Good luck