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Bm still playing her childish games

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Submitted by triplea2006 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 8:33am

So last night when dh was on the way to pick up the skids (after the fiasco of threatening not to send the clothes and threats of the kids not wanting to come failing) and bm has the skids call dh. I was so mad that this woman wanted her way so bad that she made the kids call and say they didn't want to come! Wretched woman! Dh stuck to his guns (proud wife right here) and told the kids he loved them and wanted to see them and basically they had no choice. It has been six weeks since we've seen them (outside our control) and for her to try to encroach on this weekend is crazy.

When the kids got into the van ss11 told his dad that mom didn't send any clothes. Dh just told him that bm decided not to send them any more clothes but not to worry because we will get them new ones (which I got them some last night, nothing major just for the weekend).

I do have one question, I'm debating bagging up all their clothes (besides the new ones) that there mom bought that are here and sending them back. So should I? Bm was told she still has clothes that we bought them at their house and asked to send them back but didn't (we usually just sent whatever they had back and never a problem between houses but this is her new thing to punish dh so we are getting all three clothes for just here). I will eventually send the other clothes but should I wait for her to send ours back?

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Submitted by triplea2006 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 5:22pm

Very few, like a tshirt a piece for the girls that they sleep in and ss accidently left pants and a shirt hanging in the bathroom but still they are hers and she has some of ours.

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Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 8:58am

I wouldn't send them back, especially if she will not be sending them with clothes for their visits.

I don't get all of the posts about clothes. What is up with these BMs? It is the kids that they are punishing. How could a mother send their kids off for the weekend without everything they need? Yes, they are going to their father's but I would still want to make sure my kids had what they needed, whether it be clothes, toiletries, whatever. When my SD was too young to pack her own bag, she never came with pajamas or a toothbrush or hairbrush. I just thought that was weird.

She did bring clothes for the weekend and whatever she brought, went back home with her. We bought her some clothes for our house because she never brought anything nice enough for church or warm enough for winter, but what we bought stayed at our house (or we would have never seen them again).

Such pettiness from these types of BMs.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 9:01am

Nope, I wouldn't send even one dirty sock back. She isn't going to send them clothes for the weekend, fine. That's what the clothes at your house are for, regardless of who bought them. If you send them back in a different outfit, keep the one they wore to your house to have for the next time. As I think you stated in one of your previous blogs, the clothing wars have just begun.

ETA: we played this game for a while. BM wanted SKs to have clothes and such for our house. I'd buy them, and they'd take them all back to their house. Even took brand new sneakers still in the box, that she apparently took back to the store and returned. I quit buying clothes.

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Submitted by triplea2006 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 5:12pm

Wow it's always something. When we think we have one problem fixed she decides to fight about something else (for no apparent reason but to start drama). So I'm periods to say that I also bought something mom would not approve of, a tankini lol. Bm is so quick to judge people as immodest and detests two pieces so we told the girls that over here they are allowed to have a tankini but not a bikini. I know she'll be all over us for this but honestly idk.

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Submitted by calm retreat on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 10:13am

One year sd came in the winter without a coat. I went out shopping with her and bought her a nice one, because she said she needed one for school. Ok so when she returned home, she posted a picture of BM wearing the coat I bought, she was wearing it while she was smoking outside. Never again after that.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 11:57am

I would not want to do that to the kids. Here are these clothes that go back, but those clothes stay here.

this new rule BM dealt out, just start it now. Kids no longer need to pack bags back and forth. BM keeps what is with her and you keep what is with you at this point.

And if she texts about it...ignore the whore.

And I would really switch to email only. Worked wonders for us with our special little BM....Denture Debbie.

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Submitted by triplea2006 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 5:18pm

I'm thinking email or family wizard because it's out of hand. She is constantly texting dh hateful stuff like he's a bad father (not true) and that he only cares about his new family. She is always pointing out that he doesn't make as much as her hubby and even said that if you can't afford clothes for them this weekend then you shouldn't pick them up. Grrrr.

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Submitted by triplea2006 on Sat, 05/16/2015 - 5:18pm

I'm thinking email or family wizard because it's out of hand. She is constantly texting dh hateful stuff like he's a bad father (not true) and that he only cares about his new family. She is always pointing out that he doesn't make as much as her hubby and even said that if you can't afford clothes for them this weekend then you shouldn't pick them up. Grrrr.