I wrote a long introduction but the Internet must have eaten it so here goes again...lol

I stumbled across this website a few days ago, have been lurking and finally decided to introduce myself.

I am a 33 year old bio mom and sm. There is DD13, DD12, DD8, SD13, and SS11. I have been married for 2 years and it is a same sex marriage. I only mention that to avoid confusion when I mention DW, hope not to offend anyone.

We have custody of DD13, DD12, and DD8. SD13 and SS11 are DW's bio children bit live with EX because she raised them since they were very young. Thankfully, she and I USUALLY get along well.

I never babied my children and have tried to raise them to be fine young ladies. They all do well in school, make straight A's, in honors classes, address adults as "sir" and "ma'am", and I get plenty of compliments on their manners and behavior. I guess that so far it is working.

SD13 and SS11 on the other hand have been babied their whole lives. We have to pay for doctor visits constantly. They have insurance but EX likes a doctor that does not accept our insurance. SS11 catches a basketball the wrong way...doctor visit. Mosquito bite...another doctor visit. If that doctor finds nothing wrong, she takes them to another doctor until something is found (probably to shut her up).

When DW and I were first together, she had a LONG list of things they could not do...dress themselves, fix their own plates, run baths etc.

Both do have asthma but manage to play sports, up until the school stopped allowing them to do so because of bad grades. They can be tearing around the house but when it comes time to do a chore, suddenly the asthma becomes a problem, leaving the DD's to clean alone. Once the chore is done...MIRACULOUSLY RECOVERED!!! SS11 will also pretend to stub his toe on something and sit on the floor moaning until the chore is done. DW does not see the manipulation.

They both make horrible grades and are both repeating the grade from the previous year. According to DW, that is the school's fault.

They are both absolutely horrible with backtalking and constantly criticize things I do. Everything I cook is wrong, my boobs aren't big enough, DW is too fat...so on and so forth. SS11 is a bit chunky himself and both barely read or write but being the adult I am not going to point any of that out.

SD 13 has called both DW and I everything but white women. Of course DW is afraid to say anything because she doesn't want to hurt their little feelings.

She is more interested in buying them expensive stuff that isn't appreciated or taken care of. It's all about Underarmour, Miss Me, and Xbox in her world. Never a thank you...they just find something wrong with it and scream for more. I think she needs to spend some of that money on private tutoring and put the Xbox away until they can read complete sentences, but not my place.