Well the vacation is upon us. Leaving tomorrow with my five kids and my honey going cross country to pick up his two kids and go camping. The nightmare has already started. The BM his x wife is trying to ruin our plans already wanting BD to come get his kids Alone (leaving us up in the mountains with no vehichle and out of cell phone service to spend the entire day with his kids alone then meet the BM for dinner after.

We have told the BM that it isn't safe and it isn't safe for him to go late into the woods with his kids that they needed to see their surroundings before dark so they don't get hurt or afraid going out to the bathroom. This is camping not the ritz we are talking about..

This is putting a strain on our relationship because this is my 40th birthday and I really wanted time to spend with the BD but he is having to spend all his time arguing with this nut case about his kids. Every time I say anything I get yelled at not at all his nature but the stress is killing him. He needs a heart cath he has been having chest pains mostly because of his stress with this woman. But he told the doc no that he wasn't going to have it until after our trip. He wasn't going to ruin it with the kids this time. But the BM nut case isn't going to let that happen. She wants to ruin the trip so she can again make up excuses so they don't get to spend time with their father yet again.

I am set though. I have the video camera the digital the tape recorders the works. I will not let this woman destory our lives with lies again like she did their last visit with the miniuplative daughter of theirs.

I have a knot in my chest like I should just put this trip off. But my family re-union with relatives all over the country will be going and I refuse to let them down. They will all be witness to the great times the kids will have in the mountains so that there is no room for lies.

I am rambling, just so stressed right now. He has to go to court and deal with this woman and make it so he doesn't have to have anything to do with her and the kids are dropped off for visitation away from her.

To all X wives out there and X husbands. I am divorced twice. I am friends with both husbands and their girlfriends and we have kids. We divorced and it was painful we argued but when it came to the kids we put all the anger away and for their sake we share the bond with our kids. We even share Chirstmas when possible for scheduals so that the kids always have both parents around. If you get rid of the hurt and the hate life is so much less hurtful and hard to get through. We all make mistakes in life and some major ones, but our kids are never mistakes and they deserve every ounce of love we can give them. I hope one day that peace can be found with my man's x and that she realizes all she has done is hurt the kids.