Teenage SD acts like a baby!!!
Where do I even begin... SD is 14 in HIGHSCHOOL & not only can she not pick up after herself, she cannot flush the toilet to save her life... like we're talking a log sitting there at least 4-5x a week, not a casual forgetting moment. She leaves garbage and dishes everywhere she goes, on the floor.. on the couch, all over the counter - right after I've spent hours trying to keep this house clean for ALL of us. We have full custody as her bio mom has been partying and barely involved for the last few years, so I know both mom & dad now completely parent out of guilt, and treat this teenager like a literal baby because she knows she's missed out on so much time. Get this... she still SUCKS HER THUMB, and I see bio moms snaps encouraging this!!! "Look at my big cute baby!!" Like is this normal behaviour...? I know this child has had a rough upbringing and clear unresolved trauma. But now that I have a baby of my own she's severely regressed and doing anything she can for attention, meanwhile doing absolutely nothing. She gets whatever she wants, im talking "dad take me shopping" "okay!" While she's left a complete pigsty in the house. She's never been disciplined, she can't even use a fork and knife... this is literally embarrassing and I'm fed up. I can't keep living in this dirty house and having this "mini wife" think she runs the house. I can't even nurse my baby in privacy without her literally STORMING into our bedroom constantly while I'm half naked shirt off... she'll hop right in the bed!!! Like fuck off.
how do I deal with this? I'm so fed up lol
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1) Have you had a calm,
1) Have you had a calm, rational discussion with your spouse? Is your spouse able to do this with you? If your spouse dismisses your concerns and/or refuses to discuss or implement changes then you have three choices.
A) Get fully involved and do not tolerate it - take control and speak up and change things (like a lock on your room door). If your spouse however comes down on you for doing so, then you can...
B ) Disengage. Ignore the tumb sucking, throw the trash/mess into her room or make sure your spouse cleans up EACH TIME. Put a lock on your door! Dishes left out and unwashed - guess no one needs them (I cleaned all stuff left around and then boxed it up so slowly we would run out of dishware and utensils - I used paper plates/bowl/disposable utensils for a while). Kitchen a mess? No meals for anyone because you cannot cook. etc. If this does not work and things don't change, then you can..
C) Leave or
D) Continue to tolerate
Time for a major league heart to heart with your partner
Make a list.
Ask him to care enough about his daughter to help lift her out of her infantile behavior.
First LOCK YOUR DOOR!!!!
First LOCK YOUR DOOR!!!!
Second, drag daddy to the bathroom to deal with the log filled toilet and everywhere areound the house to immediatly deal with the trail of SKidBaby bullshit she leaves everywhere.
Finally, hand the baby to daddy for every diaper change 24/7 with the message that he failed to deal with his TeenBaby turds and he will now deal with everyone of the actual baby's dirty diapers.
Do not tolerate daddy failing on any of these by giving him the message that one missed toilet floater, one missed Skid dish or micro-piece of garbage, or one missed baby diaper and his ShitSpawned failed family progeny is out and will ot return. Cap the message with the message that if he says one word, he is out with her and on the hook for a shit pile of CS for the better part of 20 tears.
Tolerate no crap. Literally.
Grrrrrr!