Well after alot of thought on my part, I finally pushed this all off on DH. I told him last night that I think she should have emailed him in the first place about trying to heal the old wounds and that I thought he should respond to her. I did ask that he run what he sends her by me and that my feelings are I'm ok with meeting her for dinner next time she's in town - I think she only comes down 1-2 times a year - somewhere other than our house. In regards to her being around our bios, I felt like I need to know there would be no drama before I brought them around her. He was in complete agreement with me which was very nice and I think he really heard where I was coming from. Now we'll see how long it take him to email her or if he ever does. My DH hasn't had a relationship with her in years and I don't know really what he's thinking.

But I feel so much better about it all now. I didn't unfriend her on FB because I think the drama that would have caused due to the fact no one has replied to her email would have just set me over the edge. So I'll let it go for now!

PS I'm going to post a ton of stuff just to move the spammers down the first page and plus it will help me get a ton of stuff straight in my brain with a little help from you guys!!!!