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Submitted by sunny_skies on Thu, 04/17/2014 - 9:44am

ok, with my new found dislike of SSstb4, (yep, unfortunately still going strong, I find myself in a bit of a dillema.

FDH is taking a weekend trip out of town in a few months, and with planning that, FDH said that he could pick up SS as usual on Friday, then leave to go on his trip, then come back Saturday evening, so he'd have time with SS that night, and then all day Sunday. (drop off Monday mornings)

SSstb4 is driving me insane recently.

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Wed, 04/02/2014 - 9:39am

I can't believe it's happened. I thought it wouldn't happen until he was a teenager. I always enjoyed his company until a few weeks ago.

Whenever I sit down, he usually clambers all over me wanting to cuddle. I've been totally fine with this in the past, he's a lovely boy, I've been in his life since he was a few months old. 

What if SK asks DH "do you like/ love BM?"

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Mon, 02/10/2014 - 9:06am

Step.tococis posted a blog a few days ago that got me thinking "SK asks do you like BM, what do YOU say?"
 
I personally would say something like "I don't really know BM that well. She is a part of *your* family, not mine and daddy's". (((do you think that's ok btw?)))

In the past, BM has said to FDH "we are a family wether you like it or not" and it worries me that she might tell SS (almost 4) that and confuse him, if we tell him different.

losing weight.. who's with me!

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Sat, 01/11/2014 - 8:28am

ok, so my DD is now 2months old, and I am feeling so huge that I'm actually uncomfortable, BUT.. here I am at a restaurant, with FDH, SS3 and DD, ordering burger and fries. ARGH!

I just can't get motivated, even though I've put on like 50pounds during pregnancy, AND we're getting married this year!!! ..my biggest fear is looking back at wedding photos and feeling miserable about how big I was Sad

"you'll feel different when it's your own"

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Mon, 07/29/2013 - 7:16pm

I'm so sick of hearing this from people, one friend said to me the other day, that once my baby arrives (in a few months!), that I'd let her get away with lots of naughty things when she's older, and not discipline her like I do SS. (by discipline I mean making sure he says please and thankyou, and putting him in the corner if he is rude, etc) 

secrets, secrets, secrets..

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Sat, 07/06/2013 - 2:06pm

Just a bit of background: I've been with FDH since SS was a few months old, he just turned 3yrs old. BM has been quite crazy towards me in the past. I won't go into details, as I'm not sure it's relevant here, I think basically all you need to know is that I put a stop to it by (nicely) saying there was no need for us to be in contact, unless there was a problem she specifically wanted to address with me concerning SS3. FDH has also put his foot down with BM  boundaries since then.

BM in my home = panic attack

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Wed, 03/13/2013 - 10:06am

I'm just wondering how we can POLITELY say no to BM when she wants to use our bathroom or get a glass of water from our kitchen.. SO and I always feel like we can't say no! 

The other day when I came home from work and unlocked the front door, I heard voices in the kitchen, I was totally confused, and thought maybe SO had invited a friend over?!!

I walked into my kitchen to find BM getting some water with SO standing there, and SS2 running around their feet. I knew we had SS overnight that night, but I thought SO was picking him up from BM like he normally does. 

BM is ruining my sex life!

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Mon, 03/11/2013 - 1:55pm

Whenever BM does anything ridiculously selfish (which is the norm) or stupid, (she truly is a total idiot) or just quite simply displays how incompetent she is as a mother, I feel like my SO was such an idiot, choosing to have a child with her.

They finally (after limping along in their pathetic, unhappy marriage for years) split while pregnant, and apparantly she's ALWAYS been selfish and awful like this. whyyy would SO think it was a good idea to have a child with her?!!

How do I explain? Please, I would like some opinions

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Submitted by sunny_skies on Thu, 10/04/2012 - 1:35pm

something happened today that made me feel stupid and I need opinions..

bit of background first..

BF and BM split while pregnant. BF and I met/ got together when SS (2and a half) was just a few months old.

I find it really hard to talk to people about how long BF and I have been together, as I'm sure they think all sorts, like..

I should have backed off to give BF and BM enough time to see if they could really work things out, or that maybe I had an affair with BF while BM was pregnant.

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