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FDH's mom is coming to town tonight to pass through on her way to Omaha or something, and she texted me and said, “Leaving town now – plan on supper when we get there so let us know where – hope kids can come!” So I call FDH and ask if we’re getting the kids tonight? He says, Yes he got the ok from BM to get them tonight…

Ok…would have been nice to know since I’m the one that has to pick them up.

Dealing with the "Moooooommmmmmyyyyyy" cry after skid is punished by the evil stepmom...

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Yesterday I picked up the kids from daycare. She told me SS3 had had 2 time outs that afternoon, the most he's had in awhile. Didn't surprise me because we suspected the skids had been at BM's mom's house all weekend, and every time they spend time with her they have the BIGGEST attitude problems.

SD6's birthday drama...

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Reminder of the backstory: SD is not my fiance's daughter, but he raised her since she was an infant as "Daddy". Her bio dad has now been involved again for 2 years, but we continue to have SD come over to our house during the week when her younger brother, my SS3 comes (2-3 nights a week).

Our daycare does a cute little birthday party when it's someone's big day. They are supposed to hand out invitations 2 weeks prior, and then she provides the ice cream/decorations and gives a nice present and the other kids give presents, too. It's something the kids all look forward to.

The seasons change and the skid clothing battle begins again.

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We had ONE nice day a week ago, the first nice day we've had yet this year. By nice, I mean 60 degrees. The weather forecast said it would be back to 40 degrees with a chance of sleet/snow the following day. Also the wind was going to be 30mph...brrr! I dropped off my son at daycare that day and saw SS3 there. He was wearing SHORTS and a t-shirt. I commented about how it's silly to wear shorts when it's not summer out yet, and our daycare lady kind of gave me a look and shrugged her shoulders.

BM's spending spree

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Ok, so it's HER money to do what she wants with it..but I'm just going to vent. BM refuses to put the skids in sports because she claims she doesn't have money. Then she lies to her daughter that it doesn't work out because the times confict with school...it's a complete lie so she doesn't have to pay for the sports and because it's "somewhat" of a hassle for BM to have to drive them to and from something and supervise and, oh, BE A PARENT!

Oh, you mean I don't have to share my new baby boy with anyone else?? HOORAY for REVELATION!

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Had to share this funny moment. So I was in the hospital for the 2nd night after delivering my baby boy a few weeks ago. I had had very little sleep yet and was up trying to get my baby to latch on correctly and was in a tired state. I started thinking, "Maybe breastfeeding's not for me" and then my mind started to wander. All of a sudden I realized that it was pretty stupid for me to even try to breastfeed because it's not like BM was going to do it or put forth any effort towards it.

I'm a mom! Updates on becoming a BM, skids meeting little brother, dealing with BM, etc.

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I had my baby boy on February 26th and haven't found a chance to blog on here yet! Smile I'm totally in mommy-mode so I'm going to try to remember all the things I mentally tucked away in the past few weeks, waiting for my opportunity to vent to all of you about them. Sorry that this is really long, but please read and give me some advice for the issues near the end!

OT: Ghostly happenings

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Last night, FDH came upstairs from our family room looking like he had seen a ghost! He told me that he's pretty sure we've got "something" in our house. I was like WHAT? He said that for about a week or so he keeps getting the sensation that the dog or SS3 is around him or doing something in the room, then he turns and there's no one there. I was trying not to scare myself so I didn't say anything...but I've been getting that SAME feeling. I'll swear that I see something move out of the corner of my eye and I'll look, expecting to see the dog or SS3 and neither are there.

Double-edged sword of being the 'responsible' household today...

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On the one hand we try to teach rules and consequences, manners and self-reliance at our house. BM does not. Although she will not do anything for her kids if it creates the slightest hassle for her, she strangely babies the kids when they're in her possession, and does everything for them. In turn, it makes it difficult for us to enforce things at our house. The things we teach at our house go out the window by the next time they come over.

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