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Just when I think that DH might be learning something...Argh!!!

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Tue, 08/21/2012 - 10:03am

Just when I think that DH might be learning something about stepping away from the DisneyDad phase, he just reminds me that he cannot let it go.

Just last week SS9 snuck his personal gaming system to school for the 20th time *after* I had pointed out that it would happen. He promised DH that he would never do that, and proceeded to do just that. It was only discovered by BM. She does have some sense after all. Did he finally lose the gaming system? No. Did he get further punishment? Not really, besides (not) doing is regular chores.

My new level of disengagement - I don't watch SS9 anymore!

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 8:51am

So SS9 is actually getting worst with his behavior not only to me, but to all authority figures. What a surprise, right? I had been begging to DH for years to get more help for SS9 before it comes to this level, but nothing changed.

So quite a while ago, I had to disengage from it all. It's hard at times, especially concerning hygiene, but the goods outweigh the bads. I always keep telling myself "Not my kid, not my problem. Just focus on my own kids" when DH does his Disneyland daddy stuff.

Still disengaged

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Wed, 06/13/2012 - 1:17pm

Well, I'm still disengaged, more than ever before! I still can't believe how some DH's can tolerate such bad behavior from their own kids, while chastising kids that aren't theirs. And the craziest part for me is that my DH works with a lot of troubled young people, so you think he'd know better.

Anyhow, for those interested in disengaging, this is what I do:

- SS9 wets the bed and leaves soiled clothes all over his room = SS9 keeping his door closed with a towel under it

I just cannot do it anymore...

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Wed, 06/01/2011 - 11:47pm

I've had it! After almost 5 years of trying, I've officially had it with my SS8. He spent 4 1/2 hours on having constant tantrums because he had to do some Summer homework that he only has to do because he slacked off so badly all year. All year long, he lied to his parents and his teachers about his homework, and it took them 'till the end of the year before they figured it out. He's always had Summer homework, which is needed but it's a pain for everyone.

It's tax time, and BM is going to be mad!

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Fri, 02/04/2011 - 10:35am

So it's tax time again, and BM will be pretty mad when she gets her tax return. You see, although we're supposed to have 50/50 custody, we've provided much more financial support for SS7 over the past few years. DH's divorce decree clearly states that the parent that supports the child more for the year gets to claim the child. Being that BM gets food stamps and welfare, she's never been able to get to that point.

I feel guilty about stopping breastfeeding after 6 months. Is there something wrong with me?

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Mon, 01/03/2011 - 11:41am

I feel guilty about stopping breastfeeding after 6 months. Is there something wrong with me?

I set a goal with my newest child to breastfeed for 6 months, which I've actually met. I was very happy that I was able to do it, especially considering that I only lasted for one week with my son. That was because I was much younger and uneducated about it.

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