It's tax time, and BM is going to be mad!
So it's tax time again, and BM will be pretty mad when she gets her tax return. You see, although we're supposed to have 50/50 custody, we've provided much more financial support for SS7 over the past few years. DH's divorce decree clearly states that the parent that supports the child more for the year gets to claim the child. Being that BM gets food stamps and welfare, she's never been able to get to that point.
So last year, BM called DH to tell him that although she knew we were supposed to claim SS7, she went ahead and filed her taxes while claiming SS7. Can you believe the nerve? Anyway, both DH and I were livid, and told her that we'd be talking with the IRS about that. She got scared and tried to say she'd give us a portion of the return. She said that "you don't want to go to the IRS, because that will hold up your tax return for a long time". Thank God DH got some balls and said absolutely not!
Long story short, we talked with our tax guy and he said that we could file a first return without the child to get most of our return, and then file an amended return to get the rest. We gave proof that not only is SS7's permanent address with us, but also that we had financially supported him for the year to a much greater extent.
So that's what we did, and we won! The IRS sent a letter stating why we deserved the deduction, and she was eventually going to hear from them with a bill for back taxes *and* interest on the money she should not have gotten in the first place! We were told that it could take up to a year for this process to happen on her side.
Well, we never did hear from her about it, which means that the IRS will probably be handling it for *this year's* tax return by her. Boy is she in for a BIG surprise! Is it bad for me to be excited for the call she'll make to DH once she realizes that she didn't get away with ignoring us and the courts?
My DH got a nice checkmark in my book (and extra lovin') for not letting her get away with this one. 
There is hope!
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Awwwwww, so happy for
Awwwwww, so happy for you!!!
Much kudos to your DH for standing up on this one!!!!
Mine doesn't want to rock the boat on the taxes issue right now, and I am soooooo maddddddd!
Thanks stepmom31. And the
Thanks stepmom31. And the worst part of it is that DH and I are fair: if she contributes at least 1/2 of the financial support for SS7, then she can claim him. She did that this past year, and I've old DH that even though we've paid more, she should get it this year because she did pay close to 1/2 of his bills (uncovered medical and dental, sports, etc). We did pay more for other things, but if she gives a real effort, then that works for me. I'm glad that she tried harder this year, but I'm also glad that we didn't let her get away with that crap last year.
Hopefully your DH will see the light someday. My DH still doesn't like to "rock the boat" in certain things, but ever since I've disengaged, I don't care if it doesn't affect me. The tax thing affected me, because I actually contribute more financially for *her* son!
But he knows not to come to be bitching about her, because he's in the place he's in with her because he lets her some of the time. She's a very worthless unmotivated woman (if you can call her that), and unfortunately SS7 is following in her footsteps. DH doesn't believe that, but he'll realize it someday.
i hate it when ANY parent
i hate it when ANY parent takes advantage of that...i had to get a court order to claim my dd this year...i didn't even bother talking to ex about it, would've come to court ne ways....SHE'S MINE!
Your absolutely right. I hate
Your absolutely right. I hate it when anyone takes advantage of the system, our BM is very good at that (welfare, food stamps, etc). If she's just get off her fat ass and get a full-time job, she wouldn't need assistance. But no, she chooses to spend her money on cigarettes and partying, while her son had to pay for his own pumpkin this past Halloween. And now a big issue is her constantly smoking all around SS7 to the point where he goes to school smelling awful. When he comes to our house, his clothes go in the washer, and he goes to the shower. And when DH complains to her about it, all he hears is silence in the other end. Can you believe the nerve of some parents?
You know this is exactly what
You know this is exactly what DH told me when he decided to let BM off the hook on taxes she AGREED IN WRITING to pay.... "that to think about karma... BM might go to jail... what would the kids think". Sorry, but she could also simply pay her taxes, avoid jail and the kids would think she's a law-abiding citizen, duh.
I honestly don't see what doing the fair and right thing, i.e. letting an individual be responsible for himself/herself and his/her actions, has to do with being evil and vindictive.
So it's ok for BM to be evil and take what's not hers, but it's NOT ok for the other parent to go back and get what was rightfully theirs, just because it's going to cause the IRS to go after the BM???
Quite frankly, karma takes too long to come around sometimes... It's like the story of the guy waiting for God to fix things when there's a flood. A man in a rowboat passes and offers to help, but the stupid guy says no, God'll get me out of here. When God gives you the tools to help yourself (in a totally legal and ethical way), why not use them?
If the $$ is supposed to be
If the $$ is supposed to be yours, then why not file for it, eh?
As far as I see, your supposed "niceness" is only enabling your ex-husband to continue to abuse your "niceness". Then we'll hear you again complaining about him. But, hey, it's your choice to keep bailing him out and not letting him feel the weight of his own actions.
I'm guessing you don't need the money, but it sure as hell can be put away into some fund for your kids college expenses, or a nice vacation trip etc. Much better than letting your ex blow it on beers for the weekend. In my humble opinion, of course.
Then spunki do it to your ex
Then spunki do it to your ex - why is it okay for the BM to wrongfully get this money every year but the one year that OP and her DH get what is theres then you have a problem with it -
So it is not your style - this is not about a style this is about a Father and his new wife getting what is theirs - so CONGRATS OP for helping you DH get what is yours - about time one for the StepMothers!!!!
the bm in my siti is good at
the bm in my siti is good at that too, she had a man living with her out of wedlock that was getting social security (he's literally classified as being legally stupid-seriously-he asked a skid to read the captions on the tv cause HE COULDN'T :jawdrop: are you REALLY that stupid rofl) she was receiving cs, ss FOOD STAMPS, AND had bf's income in addition to her own EASILY made too much money to get food stamps...well shortly after dh lost his job in 09 we immediately filed for food stamps, but denied because bm has his kids on with her, so }:) i called DHS and said, "do you realize she is getting ss, has bf living with her (forgot to mention this) AND she's working a partime job in addition to her full time job" obviously they didn't know about mr only for fun and second job...asked me full name and second place of employment, shortly after yeah, she quit her part time job, and he (now for over a year) helping brother who broke his arm...uh huh sure HAHA! so dh and i hired an attorney, got he ss back (she has to pay some of that back) she JUST got back on food stamps and she got married less than 2 months after dh filed for modification, then shortly after that, her dh has been helping his brother with a broken arm (been 1.5 years since he's been "helping" his brother with a broken arm and since we've seen him----ha!-no complaints) yeah she married so dh couldn't hold that allogation against her ne more....cracks me up which was fine by me cause that gave him full power to get ss dropped...made the move i HOPED for but KNEW she was too smart to do (all she had to do was kick him out, and ss wouldn't have been dropped)
she only wears her walmart 10.00 wedding band (there IS a green ring around her finger :jawdrop: ) when dh is around, when dh is not going to be there it's not there HAHAHAHAHA!
my mil asked her at christmas (yes she went over there for christmas, i didnt' care, neither did dh..whole other story) how her and dh was...she pretty much said not good and regret the marriage bahahaha! BM YOU F'D UP! not only did you lose your spousal but you ALSO lost your other kiddo's income because OBVIOUSLY his money goes where HE is rolf i'm rolling....KARMA IS A BITCH!
Good-Good-Good for YOU! Do
Good-Good-Good for YOU! Do not feel bad at all.
Sometimes these BM's absolutely MUST be taught their place AND that there are CONSEQUENCES to THEIR actions!!!!
As far as Kharma goes....seems to me BM is reaping what she herself sowed. JMHO.
Spunki no you would not get
Spunki no you would not get the double standard at all. I can tel you that if it were the man that did that in the first place everyone would be telling the mom to nail his ass! Why is different when a woman does it? Um nothing expect their gender and that is it!
Wow, I haven't visited this
Wow, I haven't visited this blog of mine in a while. For those of you criticizing what was done, you obviously are not understanding the intent of this blog (especially Spunki).
My DH almost never stands up to BM on what's right. For instance, they got a vehicle when they were married that was in his name only. When they divorced, she signed on the dotted line that she would make the payments on-time until it was paid off so that she could keep it. He didn't want to take it back because he wanted SS7 to have reliable transportation. So after months and months of non-payments, the vehicle finally got repossessed by the bank, and guess who had to not only pay it off, but have it affect his credit negatively??? DH of course. And BM's response to it in her oh-so snotty tone: "You knew I couldn't afford it; you should have taken it!". We never heard a thank you or sorry from her, just blame because she's always the victim even when someone's trying to do something nice for her.
And this is the woman I should feel bad for? She has screwed us in so many ways financially, and she's now screwing SS7 in her own little ways (like smoking around him even though he has allergies). So no, I don't feel bad for DH finally standing up for our family, because it was the right thing to do. She did commit fraud with the IRS after all, and we were going to be the one's that would suffer AGAIN after almost-exclusively supporting SS7 on our own.
So yes, I do sleep well at night. I believe in living your life in a respectful way, while not playing the system. If that makes me the bad guy to you, then *you* should really look at *your* principals!!!
...and thanks to those who
...and thanks to those who *do* understand!!! I appreciate it
Good for you and DH for
Good for you and DH for holding BM accountable for her actions. It was not her deduction to take, it was your DHs. That is stealing and your DH and the IRS did the right thing.
You did not screw her, she screwed herself. She chose to commit a crime and you called her on it. Good for you.
Next time she will think twice before making that idiot decision again.
I think that the Karma in this situation has landed exactly in the right lap. BM's lap where she will now have to pay the IRS back for her fraudulent claim of the deduction ... with interest and penalties. She knew it was not her deduction to take, told your DH it was not her deduction to take, took it anyway and tried to manipulate her way out of the consequences of her decision. Yep, Karma is perfectly happy with this one IMHO.
Not that I know crap about Karma other than what I have surmised over my life time.
The money is now in the hands of those that will use it appropriately for the best interest of the kid(s).
That .... is perfectly appropriate Karmic (if that is even a word) justice.
IMHO of course.
Thanks Rags; I really
Thanks Rags; I really appreciate your comments! I absolutely believe in Karma, and it's definitely sitting in her lap. Take care.