I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this and how you've resolved this issue in a manner that is fair for both you and DH.

My DH and I have put an offer in on a house that is about a 30 min drive from the skids. We currently only live 5 min away from the skids. Because of the distance, we had agreed on a change to the visitation schedule such that we would have the skids 1 overnight per week and every other weekend. DH works a schedule with rotating days off and on some weekends I would need to be responsible for the skids while he works. I am completely ok with this as it allows DH to have longer time with the kids rather than spending time driving back and forth all the time.

DH said the other day that he was hoping to 'maximize' visitation over the summer, when the skids are not in school. He proposed that we have the skids overnight two nights per week on his weekday days off, plus every other weekend. This would mean on certain weeks we would have the skids 4-5 overnights. I told DH that i didn't feel there was a reason to do the every other weekend during the summer, if he is already having skids two overnights during the week. I also would like to spend some time with my own two children without being responsible for skids while he is working. I think that this really hurt DH's feelings. He won't come out and say it but it's seems like he feels that I am rejecting his children. I am very bonded to his children however it is difficult do anything on the weekend with 4 children between the ages of 5-7. I don't' want to commit myself to taking care of the skids every other weekend and eventually feel resentful. No matter how much structure we try to have in the home, it is always busy with four children of those ages. Someone always needs or wants my attention and it is a lot of one person to handle.